AMACEBISO ABALULEKE KAKHULU OMSHADO WE-LGBTQ OYIHLE
Manje uma wazi ukuthi lolu suku olukhethekile lomshado wakho luyeza ungase ube nemibuzo engqondweni yakho, ukuthi ungakutholaphi lokhu, kanjani lokho, kwenzekani? Mhlawumbe asinazo zonke izimpendulo kodwa okungenani sinezimpendulo ezibaluleke kakhulu kweminye yemibuzo yakho ebaluleke kakhulu.
UKUTHOLA INDANDATHO
Sithini isifundo somshado? Ithi ngaphezu kwamaphesenti angama-90 imibhangqwana ye-LGBTQ igqoka umshado izindandatho, nakuba amadoda ayengenandaba kangako nezindandatho zokuthembisana. Lapho uthenga izindandatho, cabangela lawa macebiso:
- Thenga ndawonye. Imibhangqwana eminingi ye-LGBTQ ifuna bobabili abalingani babe nezwi ekukhetheni izindandatho ezizobonisa ukuzibophezela kwabo. Ukuthenga iringi ndawonye kunganciphisa ukuzisola ngendandatho futhi kukuvumele ukuthi ube nezindandatho ezinosayizi ofanele ngaphambi kokuphuma esitolo.
- Akuwona u-1950 lona, asikholelwa emthethweni wendandatho olingana nomholo wezinyanga ezintathu. Cabangela lokho isabelomali sakho esingakuvumela, wazi ukuthi unethoni yezinye izindleko ngomshado wakho nempilo ndawonye.
- Cwaninga izinto ezingaba izinsimbi namatshe (igolide, isiliva, iplatinamu, noma i-titanium; amadayimane amhlophe noma ushokoledi, amarubi, njll.) ngaphambi kokuthi ungene esitolo futhi ucabange ngokucophelela ngomsebenzi wakho nendlela yokuphila.
- Futhi zizwe ukhululekile ukuvumela iringi yakho yenze isitatimende uma uthanda. Ungazama ngensimbi, ukuma, ukuqoshwa. By the way ungakwazi njalo ukuthola Abathengisi bobucwebe be-LGBTQ abanobungane kusayithi lethu.
ULITHOLA KANJANI IPHEPHA LOMSHADO
Akubona ubukhazikhazi njengokuthenga izindandatho nezigqoko, kodwa ukuthola ilayisense yomshado kuyimfuneko kuzo zonke izifundazwe ezingu-50, ngasinye sinemibandela yaso.
- Okungenani oyedwa ozoshada naye (kodwa ngokuvamile bobabili) kufanele avele mathupha ehhovisi likamabhalane wesifunda ukuze agcwalise isicelo selayisensi yomshado phambi kwesikhulu. Uma umuntu oyedwa noma bobabili beyizakhamuzi zezwe, imali yokufaka isicelo ingaba ngaphansi njenge-$20. Emibhangqwaneni engaphandle kwezwe ingaba ngaphezulu kuka-$150. Izifundazwe eziningi azidingi ukuthi ube yisakhamuzi sombuso ukuze uthole ilayisense lapho.
- Uhlobo oluthile lokuhlonza luhlala ludingeka, ngokuvamile i-ID yesithombe kanye nobufakazi bamaqiniso okuzalwa, kodwa izifunda ezahlukene zamukela imibhalo ehlukene. Abanye badinga isitifiketi sokuzalwa. Kuzo zonke izifundazwe ngaphandle kwesisodwa, bobabili abantu kufanele babe neminyaka eyi-18 (e-Nebraska, kufanele ube neminyaka engu-19) noma ube nemvume yabazali. Ngisho noma abazali bevuma, izifunda eziningi zisadinga inkantolo ukuthi iphinde igunyaze umshado uma omunye umuntu engaphansi kweminyaka engu-18. I-Delaware, iFlorida, iGeorgia, iKentucky, iMaryland, ne-Oklahoma ivumela intsha ekhulelwe naleyo eseyivele inengane ukuthi ishade. ngaphandle kwemvume yabazali.
- Uma usuwafakile amaphepha, wanikeza ubufakazi bokuthi ungubani, futhi ukhokhe izindleko, ungase unikezwe ilayisense ngaso leso sikhathi, noma kungathatha izinsuku ezimbalwa ukucubungula. Noma iyiphi indlela, isicelo sakho asiqediwe ngokusemthethweni kuze kube ngemva komcimbi - lapho umbhangqwana, umphathi, nofakazi ababili abaneminyaka engu-18 kudingeka basayine ilayisense. Imibhangqwana eminingi kuye kwadingeka ukuthi iphinde isayine amasiginesha ngenxa yamaphutha amancane, okuholela ezindlekweni ezengeziwe kule nqubo. Kungumsebenzi wesikhulu ukubuyisela ilayisensi yomshado kumabhalane wesifunda, kungaba ngeposi noma mathupha. Kamuva, ikhophi esemthethweni neqinisekisiwe yelayisensi yomshado esayiniwe ithunyelwa ngeposi kumbhangqwana.
IGCOKAMA ZOMSHADO LE-LGBTQ
Nali iqiniso mayelana nezingubo zomshado nama-tuxes nezinye izinto ezigqokwa abakhwenyana nomakoti noma abanye abashadile. Uma uvumelana kakhulu nobulili kanye nokukhetha kwakho kwemfashini, kuzoba lula ukuthola okufunayo. Cabangela ukuthola okuthile ku-inthanethi ngesikhathi Umthengisi osekela i-LGBTQ njengalapha futhi ukuze ihambisane nomzimba wakho ekhaya.
Uma ungowesilisa wesifazane noma umuntu ongabhimbambili ofuna ingubo, noma ibhusha noma owesifazane oyisidoda ozama ukuthola i-tux, izinto zihamba kancane. Uma uzama ukufaka iphathi yomshado yabesilisa, abesifazane, nabantu abanganambambili bonke abagqoke ama-tuxedo, kungaba nzima nakakhulu. Kodwa ungakhathazeki. Kusukela ukulingana emshadweni usuphenduke umthetho wezwe, ngaphezulu Abathengisi baye baqaphela amandla of the rainbow dollar. Lokho akusho ukuthi bonke omakoti be-super-leggy transgender bazoba lula, kodwa sekulula manje kunangaphambili.
Ukubheja okungcono kakhulu kuya endaweni. Vakashela isitolo esiqashisa nge-tux ubabuze ngokusebenza nabesifazane, nangemishado yabantu bobulili obufanayo. Uma izimpendulo zizwakala zingathandeki, bheka kwenye indawo. Okufanayo kuya kubakhi bezingubo zomshado. Amaketango endawo ahlinzeka abathandanayo bobulili obufanayo, kodwa amadoda aveza ubulili angase athole ukuphathwa kabi, ngakho-ke buza kuqala bese uya lapho unethezeke khona.
THOLA OWAKHO UMTHETHOSIZITHOMBE
Uma kuziwa abathwebuli bezithombe, cishe baningi abathwebuli bezithombe abalungele i-LGBTQ kunanoma yiluphi olunye uhlobo lomthengisi oludingekayo. Kodwa-ke, nakuba abathwebuli bezithombe abahlakaniphile nabanobungane be-LGBTQ bebaningi e-New York City, e-Los Angeles, nase-San Francisco, imibhangqwana emadolobheni amancane aseMidwestern noma aseNingizimu ingase ingabi nakho ukukhetha okuningi.
- Zama ukusebenzisa amagama okusesha afana nokuthi “umshado wezitabane” kanye “nomshado wobulili obufanayo,” ngisho noma ingakuchazi kahle njengombhangqwana (abaningi ababambisene nabo abanezisusa ezinhle abahambisani namagama noma izimpawu zomazisi).
- Buyekeza amasayithi nezincazelo ngokucophelela ngaphambi kokuqhubeka. Abathwebuli bezithombe abaningi bazongeza omaka bosesho “abangqingili” kanye “nongqingili” kumawebhusayithi abo ukuze bahehe amakhasimende amaningi, kodwa abagxili kakhulu Imishado ye-LGBTQ. Bangase babe abathwebuli bezithombe zomshado abanolwazi, kodwa izithandani eziningi noma izithandani ezishintshashintshayo zikhetha othile ochwepheshile ekuthwebuleni labo abasemphakathini. Ungathola 100% abathwebuli bezithombe be-LGBTQ kusayithi lethu.
- Buza ngamanani ayisisekelo kusenesikhathi - asikho isidingo sokumosha isikhathi kubathengisi abangaphandle kwebanga lakho. Cabangela ukuthi uyamfuna yini umuntu ozothamela yonke imicimbi yakho yomshado noma ongasetha izithombe eziku-studio. Ekugcineni, umthwebuli wezithombe okulungele umuntu ositayela sakhe sokubuka sifana nesitayela sakho sezithandani, esihloniphayo, ngesabelomali, nasendaweni.
IKHEKHE ELIKHETHEKILE KAKHULU
Kweminye izithandani ezishona phansi, konke kumayelana nengubo, indandatho, noma ireception - kodwa kubavakashi bomshado wakho, konke kumayelana nalelo khekhe, indlela iselula kakhulu:
- Hlela ukunambitha. Umbhaki kufanele abe namasampula amaningana okunambitheka kwekhekhe ukuze ukunambitha. Buza imibuzo bese ubheka izithombe zemiklamo yabo. Lesi yisikhathi sokuletha zonke izithombe obuziqoqa ukuze uzibonise okufunayo. Njalo ungakwazi thola usizo lapha.
- Ikhekhe livamise ukuba nentengo ngocezu ngalunye. Konke kuncike ekugcwaliseni, izinhlobo ze-icing (ibhotela ishibhile kune-fondant), noma ukuthi ungakanani umsebenzi ongena ekwakhiweni.
- Khetha ikhekhe ngemva kwakho konke. Uzofuna ukuthi uqedele ukuthi bangaki abantu ozobe ubaphakela ngaphambi kokuthi u-ode. Khumbula futhi plan ozohambisa ikhekhe ereception. Amaqebelengwane omshado aphakeme angaba nzima ukuwaphatha nokuwahambisa.
ISIBONGO SETHU SIZOBA?
Omunye wemibuzo ekhathaza kakhulu kunoma yimuphi umbhangqwana othembisene ukuthi yini okufanele uyenze ngesibongo. Ukuhlola okwenziwa i-The Knot kwathola ukuthi amaphesenti angu-61 emibhangqwana yabesilisa namaphesenti angu-77 emibhangqwana yabesifazane ayenohlobo oluthile lokushintshwa kwamagama ngalowo nyaka.
- Imibhangqwana eminingi igcina amagama abo njengophawu lokulingana phakathi kobudlelwane. Kodwa leso sinqumo singanikeza izinqumo ezinzima ezizayo. Ngokwesibonelo, ingane izoqanjwa igama likabani? Kukhona nokukhathazeka mayelana nezimpawu.
- Naphezu kobunzima bendaba, kunezinketho ezine kuphela. Okokuqala ukungenzi lutho. Lokhu kukhetha kudumile kulabo abafisa ukukhombisa uhlobo oluzimele lobudlelwano. Okwesibili ukuhlanganisa amagama amabili, avame ukukhethwa njengophawu lokulingana kozakwethu. Okwesithathu okukhethwa kukho wukuhamba ngendlela yendabuko yomlingani oyedwa othatha igama lomunye. Okokugcina ukwakha igama elisha, ngokuvamile ngokuhlanganisa izibongo ezimbili.
- Ngaphandle kokukhetha, kubalulekile ukuhlola imithetho yesifunda sakho. Ezinye izifundazwe zidinga umyalelo wenkantolo wokushintsha amagama, futhi noma yikuphi ukuguqulwa kwegama kuzodinga isinyathelo kuhlu lwamadokhumenti. njengamalayisense okushayela, amakhadi Okuphepha Komphakathi, amarekhodi asebhange, nokunye okuningi. Kunemithombo eminingi ye-inthanethi efaka kuhlu imithetho nezimfuneko zombuso, kodwa lokhu kungase futhi kube indawo lapho ufuna ukubonisana nomthetho komuntu siqu.
Nokho, siyethemba ngempela ngemva kokufunda lesi sihloko unemibuzo emincane engenazimpendulo. Khumbula ukuthi ungathola njalo abathengisi abanobungane be-LGBTQ kusayithi lethu futhi uqiniseke ukuthi umshado wakho uzoba ophelele!
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