Ibali leSindululo lika-Ashlee kunye neCrystal
Sadibana njani
Ashlee: Saqala ukwaziswa ngabazali bethu ecaweni ngo 2002. Sacofa ngoko nangoko ngenxa yokuthanda ibhola yomnyazi. UCrystal wayeziqhelanisa nam iiyure ezininzi ekugqibeleni, aye kuyo yonke imidlalo yam, andicingi ukuba wayephosiwe! Sasingahlukani singabahlobo kwaye ndandimthanda ngokunzulu… ngaphezu komhlobo wam nje.
Emva kwemizuzu emininzi yokubuzwa "Ngaba uCrystal gay?" yaye ndathi kuMama “hayi,” Andizange ndiphoxeke ukuba ndiyifihle inyaniso yokuba kungekuphela nje uCrystal owayelifanasini, kodwa nam ndilifanasini yaye ndandimthanda ngokunzulu. Ndisenokuba ndandiselula, nangona kunjalo ndandisazi kakuhle ukuba ndandingafuni ukwahluka noCrystal, kodwa ukuba inyaniso yayinokuvela yayiza kuba yinto yethu yokwenene. Emva kokuba ndibuyile esikolweni ngenye imva kwemini, ndahlangatyezwa nguMama yaye waxelelwa ukuba ndingaze ndiphinde ndithethe noCrystal. Yayibuhlungu intliziyo yam, kakade uthando lwam ngoCrystal lwalungazukuphela kuba umama wayendixelele. UCrystal wabuyela eLos Angeles, ndavunyelwa ukuba ndimncede apakishe usuku awayehamba ngalo, kodwa oko kwandityumza ngakumbi. Bendingekho right ngokuhamba kwakhe, bendiyazi ukuba ndiyakuhlala ndimkhathalele. 
Ngokukhawuleza phambili iminyaka embalwa kwaye ndihlala eMazantsi eCalifornia kwaye ndafikelela kuye. Sobabini kubudlelwane obutsha, sihlangane ngesidlo sasemini. Kungekudala emva kokuba eze esalon yam kwaye enze iinwele zakhe kwaye kuba ngathi siphinda siphinda siphinda sivela kule minyaka mithathu okanye emine ngaphambili. Ifeelings zam ngaye bezisenamandla, iseyinyani kwaye ndaqonda ukuba ndisamthanda. Kwakhona ndacinga, sobabini sohlukana ngendlela yokungathethi kwakhona kangangexesha elithile.
Ndahlala kumtshato endandikuwo phantse iminyaka elishumi, uCrystal wadlulela kolunye ulwalamano olude ukutyhubela iminyaka. Kwakungo-2015 apho ndandikwi-a indawo ebomini bam ndaqonda ukuba kulungile ukufumana ulonwabo lwam. Into yokuba ukuzama “ukukholisa uThixo nentsapho yam” ngokungawuqhawuli umtshato kwakungeyompilo kum nakubantwana bam. Ndinabantwana abathathu abahle, bendisazi ukuba ndifuna ukuba nguMama olungileyo kunye ngumzekelo wokuba uthando luyintoni na, ndinomntu okanye ngaphandle kwakhe endifuna ukubakho kwizinto ezininzi. UThixo ufuna abantwana bakhe bonwabe hayi kwikhaya eliqhekekileyo - uMama wam kubo bonke abantu wandixelela ukuba emva kwayo yonke le minyaka ndoyika ukugwetywa kusapho kunye necawe.
Kwaba ngathi ngela xesha kanye ndandisazi ukuba ndandifuna ubuncinane ukufikelela kuCrystal, ndibone ukuba uphi na ebomini. Kuba yonke into endandisazi sasingekathethi kwiminyaka, mhlawumbi wayetshatile kunye nabantwana, kwaye wonwabile?! Kodwa nokuba ndandisazi ukuba ndiyamfuna ebomini bam, nokuba angandifaka nje ngomhlobo, ndandingazuphinda ndimyeke aphuncuke.
Ndifikelele kuye ku-Instagram ngesicelo somhlobo. Ndothuswa kukuba avume kwangoko. Saphawula kwizithuba zomnye, ngokukhawuleza satshintshisa iinombolo zefowuni, sichitha ixesha elide kwifowuni, ngamanye amaxesha de kwafika ilanga. Sobabini sasikwindawo entsha ebomini, sisandul’ ukutshata emva kokuba nabantu abangalunganga iminyaka emininzi kakhulu. Ngoku ukuba sendaweni egqibeleleyo, abasetyhini abomeleleyo kunanini na ngaphambili kwaye bachulumancile koko ikamva lethu linokubamba.
Ndiye ndamndwendwela 10-30-2015 kwaye zange ndahlukana ukusukela ngoko. Kuninzi sikunye ukusukela ngoko, abantu abasi-7 babhubhile kwiinyanga ezili-11 phakathi kweentsapho zethu zombini, ukuthengisa ikhaya, ukufuduka kwelinye ilizwe, ukuhlala kwiRV kunye nokuhamba iinyanga ezili-18, utshintsho lomsebenzi, ukuthenga ikhaya kunye kunye nokukhulisa. abantwana bethu abathathu abahle uOcean (13), uCitlali (10) noZyelee (9).
Sobabini sasiluvakalise uloyiko lwethu malunga nomtshato ephepheni kunye nokuba unokujongeka njani na, ukanti sasinobomi bobabini kunye nokuzinikela kothando omnye komnye. Andizange ndiyazi ukuba uCrystal wayenokuze andicele ukuba nditshate naye, kodwa kwakusoloko kungumnqweno wentliziyo yam ukwabelana naye ngoku, ukuthwala ifani yakhe, ukwazi ukuba ubomi bakhe bonke ngokwenene wayeya kundikhetha.
Indlela Ababuza Ngayo
Ashlee: KwakungoJanuwari 8, 2021 apho amaphupha am azaliseka. UCrystal wayecele kwiiveki ezimbalwa ngaphambi kokuba ndifumane usuku lwam ukuze sibhiyozele usuku lwam lokuzalwa kwangethuba ngaphambi kokuba abantwana bethu babuyele esikolweni. Ebesoloko endixelela ukuba yena nabantwana bethu bafuna ukwenza ipiknikhi elwandle kwaye bandenzele into emangalisayo emva koko. Ke siqala ukuzilungisa, kwaye intsasa enoxinzelelo emva kokuba abantwana bethu bevuke bediniwe kwaye bekhathazekile nto leyo endishiye ndicinezelekile, phezu koko amandla ethu ayacima ngenxa yokucinywa okucwangcisiweyo silibale ngokupheleleyo ukuba ibisenzeka ngaloo ntsasa. Ngoko simaxhaphetshu, sigqiba ukuqokelela izinto zethu ukuze siye kwintsapho yakuloCrystal ukuze silungiselele apho. Kancinci emva kweshedyuli siya ngaselwandle.
Saba nesidlo sasemini esimnandi kwivenkile yokutyela kunaselwandle, ngoko sasikwazi ukuya kwindawo yethu elandelayo. Beza nezipho zam zomhla wokuzalwa etafileni ukuze ndizivule ngesidlo sasemini, ngoko ke ngokuqinisekileyo ndandisiva isandi somhla wokuzalwa.
Sonwabile ngayo nantoni na ababeyicwangcisile ngokulandelayo, safika eGondola Adventures kulo Mbhiyozo woMhla wokuzalwa umangalisayo. Igondola yayizaliswe ngamagqabi erozi, irozi yayisongelwe yaza yandilinda esitulweni sam, kwakukho iindondo ezintlanu ezipholileyo, i<em>gondolier yethu yazinika ixesha yokufumana imifanekiso yethu sonke! Intliziyo yam yayisele izele yimincili kangangokuba yindlela ababefuna ukubhiyozela ngayo usuku lwam lokuzalwa!
Umdlali wethu omangalisayo we- gondolier, uKalev, uthe kukho imigaqo ethile xa ukwi gondola, kubulisa bonke abadlulayo ngokuthi “Buonasera” (molweni ngesiTaliyane) kufuneka, kwaye ukwangiwa kunyanzelekile phantsi kwebhulorho nganye esingena phantsi kwayo. Njengoko sasisondela kwibhulorho yokuqala, uCrystal wandixelela ukuba ufuna i<em>gondola ukuze eze nabazali bam apha. Utata wayevela eNaples, eItali kwaye wemka kuthi ngokukhawuleza emva kwedabi lakhe lomhlaza, ndandisele ndilila. Ndiyabulela kuba ebenokuyicinga loo nto, ndiselwandle kunye naye kunye nabantwana bethu abathathu, bendikhwankqisiwe ngokwenene bubuhle ngalo mzuzu.
Kanye xa sasincamisana njengoko sasisiya ngaphantsi kwebhulorho, uKalev waqalisa ukusiculela ngesiTaliyane - sobabini salila iinyembezi zovuyo, zothando, zoxolo kunye nezobuhle. Sayivula iwayini kunye neCrystal ekhazimlayo yecider eyayize nayo, iingubo awayeze nazo ekhaya zazigqunywe phezu kwemilenze yethu, i-toast yenziwe kwaye iimbono ezimangalisayo zeNewport Harbour zaziphefumla. Siqhubele phambili saya kwindawo evuleleke ngakumbi kwizibuko, apho amajelo amathathu adibana khona, i-gondolier yethu yasijika yasalatha amakhaya ahlukeneyo kunye nolwakhiwo lwawo olulodwa, iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zezikhephe kunye neeyacht kunye nembali yaloo ndawo.
Njengoko wayesijikela ngexesha lokugqibela, kwabonakala kukho umyalezo kwibhotile edada phezu kwamanzi ngaphambili. U-Kalev usiqhubele ngqo kuyo, wathi mandifike phantsi kwaye njengentombazana yokuzalwa ndiza kuyivula. Ndiyisuse ngocoselelo ikona ndatsala i ribbon ndisongelwe kakuhle kulomyalezo.
Ndithe xandiyivula besele ziphuma iinyembezi, izidlele zam bezibuhlungu luncumo olungapheliyo, bendingakwazi nokuwakhupha amagama abhalwe kakuhle aphele ngo “Ndakuthanda ngoko, ndiyakuthanda ngoku kwaye ndithembisa ukukuthanda uInfinity kwaye Ngaphaya. Uthando, Crystal".
Emva kokuba ndiyifundile ekugqibeleni, ndamanga ndaza ndawola uCrystal ndaza ndamxelela ukuba enkosi ngolu suku lukhethekileyo yaye ndiyakuthanda. Uphendule ngendlela efanayo wandixelela ukuba ufuna ukuhlala nam ubomi bakhe bonke.
Loo mazwi ayesoloko ethethwa phakathi kwethu, ngoko ndakhawuleza ndaphendula ndathi, “Nam ndifuna ukuchitha ubomi bam bonke nawe!” Ndothuswa kukuba, uCrystal waguqa edolweni waza wabuza “NGABA UYA KUNDITSHATA?” Ngokukhawuleza ndathi "EWE!!!!" izihlandlo eziliwaka ewe! 💍
Yintoni eyenza lo mzuzu ubengcono kukuba wayenetalente enkulu Videudio yibambe yonke ngedrone, i-gondolier irekhode ividiyo kwifowuni kaCrystal ekwathathe iitoni ezimangalisayo. iifoto.. umzuzu wawuPHELELE! Bekungcono kunemiboniso bhanyabhanya, ngcono kunokuba bendinokuphupha, ukothuka okupheleleyo kwaye abantwana bethu abancedisi nje ukucwangcisa kodwa babone lo mzuzu ugqibeleleyo.
Asikwazi ukuyeka ukuncuma, ngalo lonke ixesha ndibona i ngqinela emnweni undibuyisela kanye kusuku lwethu olukhethekileyo, nge-8 kaJanuwari, 2021. Uvuyo lokuthanda kunye nokukhanya kunye nobomi bakho bonke Mi amor! ❤️
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