KUFUNEKA SIFUMANE IMPENDULO YOMBUZO WE-ETIQUETTE!
Xa ulungiselela umtshato wakho usoloko udibana neetoni zemibuzo mhlawumbi awuzange udibane nayo ngaphambili. Imibuzo ye-Etiquette malunga nomtshato wakho yinto ekufuneka uyiphendule ukuba ufuna ukuphumla kwaye uphephe ubunzima kumsitho. Sukuba nexhala eli nqaku liza kukunceda ufumane iimpendulo ezibalulekileyo kuyo yonke imibuzo yakho.
1. Ahlulwa njani amatyala omtshato phakathi kweentsapho ze-LGBT? Abazali bakabani bahlawula ntoni?
Lo mbuzo we-etiquette awuphelelanga kwizibini zesini esinye kuphela. Khumbula, zonke izibini kufuneka ziwubuze lo mbuzo. Kwizithethe zakudala, kwahluka ngokuxhomekeke kwinkcubeko yesibini. Ngamanye amaxesha abazali bomtshakazi babeka isixa esikhulu; ngamanye amaxesha kwakungumbandela wokunikwa umhlaba nezindlu emva koko.
Kakade ke, kule mihla izibini ezininzi azithembeli kubazali bazo; bahlawula ityala ngokwabo. Uphando olwenziwe yi Umtshato wamaGay Iziko lifumanise ukuba i-84 pesenti yamadoda angamafanasini kunye nama-73 ekhulwini amabhinqa athandana namanye ayazixhasa ngemali imitshato yawo. Lo ngumba ekufuneka uxoxwe kwangaphambili namaqela abandakanyekayo, kwaye akukho sisombululo sisinye kumntu wonke.
2. Ngaba kulindeleke ukuba kumenywe onke amalungu entsapho, kwanalawo angenankxaso?
Ngelixa imitshato ingumbhiyozo owonwabisayo, kufuneka kubekho nemvakalelo yozakuzo. Ukuba ilungu elithile losapho linyathela ibhili eninzi, banokufuna ukumema abantu abazikhethele bona. Kumbuzo ontununtunu wokuziphatha okunje, lithuba lokuba wonke umntu abonise ukuba bangabaquka kangakanani na.
Isibini somtshato simele sicacisele izalamane zaso indlela esivakalelwa ngayo ngokuvumela abantu abathile abangabaxhasiyo ukuba beze ethekweni. Yaye kwelinye icala, intsapho yabo imele iyihlonele iminqweno yabo.
3. Kuthekani ngamagama? Ndingathetha njani nomntu otshatileyo otshatayo?
Imitshato yamaGay kule mihla ithande ukungabahluli amaqabane “njengabatshakazi” okanye “abakhwenyana.” Xa uzama ukufumana impendulo kulo mbuzo we-etiquette Cinga ngezihloko zabo ngokubhekiselele kwabo bangezona zesini: "amaqabane" okanye "abalingane," umzekelo. Xa uthandabuza, khawucinge kwesi sibini: Ngaba bamazisa omnye “njengomfazi” okanye “umyeni” wabo? Ukuba kunjalo, cinga ukuba kukhuselekile ukwenza okufanayo.
4. Iyintoni inkqubo yomngcelele kumtshato wesini esinye? Ngubani ohamba ezantsi epasejini?
Apha kunokubakho umbuzo wokubhideka wokuziphatha okanye ingxaki xa usenza isigqibo ngomyalelo womngcelele. Kwimitshato yesiNtu, ubawo uhambisa intombi yakhe, umtshakazi, ezantsi ukuya kukhawulela umyeni wakhe, umyeni.
Ngemitshato yama-gay, yonke into ingumbandela wokungcamla komntu, ukhetho kunye nezicelo. Kukho iinguqu kule nto, ezinye zazo ziquka:
a) Akukho mntu "uhamba" nabani phantsi. Elinye iqabane lilinda nje ngasesibingelelweni ukuze elinye lisondele.
b) Zombini zikhokelela enye kwenye epasejini, ingalo ngengalo.
c) Izihlalo zabaphulaphuli zilungelelaniswe kwiipaseji ezimbini ezidibana esibingelelweni: Abalingane bahambelane ukuya kwelinye ukuze badibane embindini, nangona kunjalo, bakhetha: ukukhatshwa ngumhlobo okanye ilungu losapho, okanye ngokupheleleyo bebodwa.
(Inye kuphela into ekufuneka uyikhumbule apha, lulungiselelo lolungiselelo. Iipaseji ezimbini zinokufuna cwangciso yeyiphi i-angle yegosa iifoto zithathwe okanye zineefoto ezingaphezulu kwesinye emnxebeni.)
5. Usenza njani isigqibo sokuba ngubani oza kuthatha ifani kabani?
Akukho mpendulo ichanekileyo okanye ingalunganga kulo mbuzo wokuziphatha; kuxhomekeke kuwe nakwiqabane lakho ukuba nigqibe. Ungafuna ukuya ngamagama amabini efani, amagama amabini aphakathi, okanye umxube weefani. Nangona kunjalo, khumbula ukuba ilizwe ngalinye linemithetho yalo malunga nokuba yintoni esemthethweni xa uguqula igama lakho. Kwaye wenze isigqibo kwangethuba; ilayisenisi yakho yomtshato inokumisela ukhetho lwakho lwamagama kwixesha elizayo kwamanye amazwe.
6. Ingaba ikhona indlela yokudibanisa inkolo kwitheko, nokuba ezinye zezithethe (kunye neenkolo) zifuna iindima zesini?
Ngelixa imikhosi yonqulo lwesini esifanayo inokuba nzima ukuyikhusela kwiindawo ezithile zonqulo nakumazwe athile, ukuba unqulo lubalulekile kuwe, kukho iindlela zokulubandakanya. Ukufumana impendulo yalo mbuzo we-etiquette kuqala kunye nokuphambili, yenza uphando lwakho. Ngelixa ezinye iinkolo zinobuhlobo ngakumbi be-LGBTQ kunezinye, nezona nkolo zemveli zinokuba neendawo ezithile okanye amagosa eziye zanamhlanje zithatha umtshato.
Kwaye ukuba awukwazi ukukhusela inkolo Indawo, musa ukoyika ukubeka elakho icala kwizimbo zomzimba okanye iindinyana zonqulo. Amagama okholo anokuguqulwa kwaye asetyenziswe kwakhona ukuze ahambelane neemeko ezidlulela ngaphaya komxholo wawo wokuqala, ke cinga ngokubhala izibhambathiso zakho kunye nokubandakanya nayiphi na imvakalelo yenkolo ebalulekileyo kuwe. Okanye ufune igosa elingengowehlelo (njengomlungiseleli omiselweyo), kwaye ubuze ukuba angakwazi na ukwenza umsitho wakho ukuba ubandakanye imiba eqhutywa lukholo ngaphandle kokuya kunqulo olupheleleyo.
Xa kufikwa kwizithethe, nesibindi sokuphula imithetho. AmaSilamsi anomtshato wesini esifanayo anokukhetha ukunxiba i-Mehndi ye-henna (ngokwesiko ezotywe kumtshakazi) kungakhathaliseki ukuba sini na, kwaye iiglasi ezimbini zinokwaphulwa kwimitshato yamaYuda kunye nomyeni okanye abatshakazi ababini.
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