MUSAMAFUNSE MABANJA A LGBTQ OCHULUKA ZA IZI
Mukalandira uthenga wabwino kuchokera kwa anzanu kuti ali pachibwenzi tsopano, tili otsimikiza kuti ndinu okondwa nawo komanso mukufuna kudziwa zambiri. Mwina ali ndi mafunso ambiri ozungulira, choncho onetsetsani kuti simukuwonjezera ndemanga kapena mafunso omwe angakhale opanda chidwi.
Kodi mudzakhala ndi ukwati “wanthawi zonse”?
Kunena chilungamo, miyambo yodzipereka ya LGBTQ m'mbuyomu sinawonetsere zikondwerero zomwe mabanja omwe anali kuchititsa. Komabe, monga limati ndipo, potsiriza, fuko, anazindikira kufanana kwaukwati, okwatirana ambiri omwe amagonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha anayamba kukhala ndi maukwati okongola achikhalidwe ndi zokonzekera zonse za anzawo owongoka. Izi sizikutanthauza kuti ukwati wanu woyamba wa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha sungaphatikizepo zosangalatsa zochepa za amuna kapena akazi kapena chikhalidwe, koma zidzatsatira ndondomeko ya maukwati ena onse omwe mudapitako ndi mwambo waufupi, ola lachisangalalo ndi phwando lokhala ndi nyimbo zambiri ndi kuvina. Chifukwa chake, dumphani funso ili, RSVP "inde" ndikukonzekera kukhala ndi nthawi yabwino!
Ndiye, ndani mwa inu ndi mwamuna/mkazi?
Ngati maanja ambiri omwe amagonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amakhala ndi faifi tambala nthawi iliyonse yomwe amafunsidwa kuti ndi ndani (muubwenzi) kapena mkazi (muubwenzi wogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha)….pangakhale ma nickels ambiri. Ngakhale izi zitha kuwoneka ngati funso losalakwa kapena loseketsa, ndizokhumudwitsa kwambiri. Zokwanira kunena kuti ngati pali akazi awiri omwe ali pachibwenzi, palibe mwamuna. Zomwezo zimapitanso kwa amuna awiri omwe ali pachibwenzi - palibe mkazi. Ngakhale kuti anthu ena a LGBTQ angasankhe ulaliki wa jenda zomwe sizikugwirizana ndi jenda lomwe adapatsidwa pakubadwa (mwachitsanzo, mkazi womasuka kuvala zovala zachimuna, motero amasankha suti kapena tux yaukwati), pokhapokha atadziwika ngati trans kapena sakukhala mwamuna kapena mkazi.
Kodi ndi liti pamene tikuyamba "Kugwa kwa Amuna?" Gay Chorus isanayambe kapena itatha?
Ngakhale sitinganene motsimikiza zomwe mnzanu kapena wachibale wanu wakonzekera ukwati wawo, sizingawoneke ngati Pride parade kapena chochitika china chagulu la LGBTQ. Musayembekeze kuchitira umboni kusinthana kopatulika kwa utawaleza mbendera kapena kuvina nyimbo ya gay pa kuvina koyamba. Izi sizikutanthauza kuti simudzamva "Ndikutuluka" kapena "Chikondi Chofanana" panthawi yolandira alendo, kapena kupeza kugwedeza pang'ono kwa gulu la LGBTQ nthawi ina madzulo, koma kunena kuti " kunyada” kungatanthauze zinthu zosiyana kwambiri ndi anthu osiyanasiyana. Kwa maanja ambiri ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, chikhalidwe cha LGBTQ sichingakhudze maukwati awo momwe amasankha kuti azingoyang'ana momwe iwo alili payekhapayekha komanso ngati banja.
Simudzakwatiwa mu mpingo eti?
Ndizowona kuti zikhulupiriro zambiri sizinalandire olambira a LGBTQ, koma izi zikusintha mwachangu, ndipo maanja ambiri omwe amagonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amasankha malo olambiriramo maukwati awo. Kuyambira pa miyambo yachihindu mpaka maukwati ophatikizidwa ndi miyambo yachiyuda mpaka maukwati achikhristu okhazikika, maanja omwe amagonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ali ndi njira zambiri zolemekeza chikhulupiriro chawo paukwati. Ndipo ngakhale anthu ambiri a LGBTQ amakhala moyo wosadzikonda, zingakhale zopweteka kuganiza kuti amuna kapena akazi okhaokha omwe ali pachibwenzi sakhala achipembedzo, kapena ali ndi ubale wokangana ndi chipembedzo.
Kodi ndinu okwatirana oti musangalale ndi kugula zovala?
Chovala chaukwati ndi chimodzi mwazodziwika kwambiri Maukwati a LGBTQ, makamaka kwa maanja omwe ali ndi akazi awiri. Chifukwa chakuti awiri mwa abwenzi omwe mumawakonda apanga chinkhoswe, musasangalale kwambiri ndi chiyembekezo chowona mikanjo iwiri yaukwati. Ambiri, ngakhale si onse, akazi amasiye amamva bwino muzovala zaukwati zomwe si zachikhalidwe kavalidwe kaukwati. Kaŵirikaŵiri, mkwatibwi mmodzi amavala chinachake chachikazi kwambiri, monga diresi, ndipo mkwatibwi mmodzi adzavala chinachake chachimuna, monga suti. Nthawi zina, akwatibwi amavala mathalauza kapena suti. Nthawi zinanso, akwatibwi amasankha madiresi, omwe ali amtundu wamtundu woyera, ndi mtundu wina. Zotheka ndizosatha maukwati awiri a mkwatibwi, kotero m'malo mofunsa funso ili, ingowonetsani ndikukonzekera zodabwitsa!
Siyani Mumakonda