Nkhani Yamalingaliro a Ashlee ndi Crystal
Momwe tinakumana
Ashlee: Tinakumana koyamba ndi makolo athu kutchalitchi kumbuyoko mu 2002. Nthawi yomweyo tinadina chifukwa cha chikondi chathu cha basketball. Crystal amayeserera nane kwa maola ambiri, kupita kumasewera anga onse, sindikuganiza kuti adaphonya limodzi! Tidali osagwirizana ngati abwenzi ndipo ndimamukonda kwambiri… kuposa bwenzi langa chabe.
Pambuyo pa mphindi zambiri ndikufunsidwa "Kodi Crystal ndi gay?" ndipo ndinawauza Amayi kuti “ayi,” Sikunali chifukwa cha manyazi kuti ndinabisira chowonadi kuti Crystal anali mwamuna kapena mkazi, koma inenso ndinatero ndipo ndinkamkonda kwambiri. Mwina ndinali wamng’ono, komabe ndinadziŵa bwino lomwe kuti sindinkafuna kukhala kutali ndi Crystal, koma ngati chowonadi chikaonekera chikanakhala chenicheni chathu. Nditabwera kunyumba kuchokera kusukulu madzulo ena, ndinakumana ndi Amayi ndipo anandiuza kuti sindidzalankhulanso ndi Crystal. Ndinasweka mtima, ndithudi chikondi changa pa Crystal sichikanatha chifukwa chakuti amayi anandiuza choncho. Crystal anabwerera ku Los Angeles, ndinaloledwa kumuthandiza kunyamula katundu tsiku limene ankachoka, koma zimenezo zinangondipweteka kwambiri. Sindinali bwino kuti achoke, ndinkadziwa kuti ndidzamusamalira mpaka kalekale. 
Mofulumira zaka zingapo ndipo ndikukhala ku Southern California ndipo ndinafikira kwa iye. Tonse awiri mu maubwenzi atsopano, sonkhana pamodzi nkhomaliro. Posakhalitsa amabwera ku salon yanga ndikukonza tsitsi lake ndipo zimakhala ngati tabwereranso zaka zitatu kapena zinayi zapitazo. Maganizo anga pa iye anali akadali amphamvu, akadali enieni ndipo ndinazindikira kuti ndinali kumukondabe. Ndinaganizanso, tonse awiri timasiyana kuti tisalankhulenso kwakanthawi.
Ndinakhala muukwati umene ndinali nawo kwa zaka pafupifupi khumi, Crystal anapitirizabe maubwenzi ena aatali kwa zaka zambiri. Munali mu 2015 kuti ndinali pa a malo m'moyo wanga kuti ndinazindikira kuti zinali bwino kupeza chisangalalo changa. Kuti kuyesa “kukondweretsa Mulungu ndi banja langa” mwa kusasudzulana sikunali kwabwino kwa ine kapena kwa ana anga. Ndili ndi ana atatu okongola, ndinadziŵa kuti ndinkafuna kukhala Mayi wabwino ndi chitsanzo cha chimene chikondi chili, pokhala kapena popanda winawake amene ndinkafuna kuti ndidzakhalepo m’zochita zambiri. Mulungu amafuna kuti ana ake asangalale osati m'nyumba yosweka - Amayi anga mwa anthu onse anandiuza kuti pambuyo pa zaka zonsezi ndinkaopa kuweruzidwa ndi banja ndi mpingo.
Zinali ngati kuti nthawi yomweyo ndinadziwa kuti ndikufuna kuti ndifike kwa Crystal, ndione kumene iye anali m’moyo. Zonse zomwe ndidadziwa kuti sitinalankhule zaka zambiri, mwina adakwatiwa ndi ana, ndikusangalala?! Koma ngakhale ndimadziwa kuti ndimamufuna m'moyo wanga, ngakhale atakhala kuti ndi mnzanga, sindingalole kuti abwererenso.
Ndinamufikira pa Instagram ndi pempho la bwenzi. Ndinadabwa kuti anavomera nthawi yomweyo. Tinapereka ndemanga pama post a wina ndi mzake, mwamsanga tinasinthana manambala a foni, timathera maola ambiri pa foni, nthawi zina mpaka dzuwa linatuluka. Tonse tinali m'malo atsopano m'moyo, titangokwatirana kumene titakhala ndi anthu olakwika kwa zaka zambiri. Tsopano kukhala pamalo abwino, akazi amphamvu kuposa kale lonse ndikusangalala ndi zomwe tsogolo lathu lingakhale.
Ndidapita kukamuona 10-30-2015 ndipo ndakhala osasiyanitsidwa kuyambira pamenepo. Takhala tikukumana ndi zambiri kuyambira nthawi imeneyo, anthu 7 amwalira mkati mwa miyezi 11 pakati pa mabanja athu onse, kugulitsa nyumba, kusamuka, kukhala mu RV ndikuyenda kwa miyezi 18, kusintha ntchito, kugula nyumba limodzi ndikulera. ana athu atatu okongola Ocean (13), Citlali (10) ndi Zyelee (9).
Tonse tidalankhula za mantha athu paukwati papepala komanso momwe zingawonekere, komabe tinali ndi moyo wapawiri ndi kudzipereka kwachikondi kwa wina ndi mnzake. Sindinadziŵe konse ngati Crystal angandipemphe konse kuti ndimkwatire, koma nthaŵi zonse chinali chikhumbo cha mtima wanga kugawana naye zimenezi, kunyamula dzina lake lomaliza, kudziŵa kuti kwa moyo wonse adzandisankhadi.
Momwe Anafunsa
Ashlee: Zinali pa Januware 8, 2021 pomwe maloto anga adakwaniritsidwa. Crystal anapempha milungu ingapo m’mbuyomo kuti ndipeze tsikulo kuti tikondweretse tsiku langa lobadwa msanga ana athu asanabwerere kusukulu. Amandiuza kuti iye ndi ana athu akufuna kukachita pikiniki pagombe ndipo adandidabwitsa pambuyo pake. Chifukwa chake timayamba kukonzekera, ndipo m'mawa wodetsa nkhawa kwambiri ana athu atadzuka atatopa komanso okhumudwa zomwe zidandipangitsa kuti ndikhale wopanikizika, pamwamba pa izi mphamvu zathu zimachoka chifukwa chosowa chomwe tidayiwala kuti chinachitika m'mawa uja. Chotero mopupuluma, tinamaliza kusonkhanitsa zinthu zathu kuti tipite ku nyumba ya banja la Crystal kukakonzekera kumeneko. Pang'ono ndi pang'ono ndondomeko tikupita ku gombe.
Tinadya chakudya chamasana chokoma m’malo odyera m’malo mwa kugombe la nyanja, kotero kuti tinakhoza kupita kumalo athu osungirako ena. Anabweretsa mphatso zanga zakubadwa patebulo kuti nditsegule nkhomaliro, kotero ndinali kumva chisangalalo cha tsiku lobadwa.
Titasangalala ndi chilichonse chomwe adakonza pambuyo pake, tidafika ku Gondola Adventures kukondwerera Tsiku lobadwa lodabwitsali. Gondolayo inadzazidwa ndi maluwa a rozi, duwa linakulungidwa ndikundidikirira pampando wanga, panali magalasi asanu oziziritsidwa, gondolier wathu adatenga nthawi kuti atenge zithunzi za tonsefe! Mtima wanga unali kale wodzaza ndi chisangalalo kwambiri kuti umu ndi momwe ankafunira kukondwerera tsiku langa lobadwa!
Kalev, woyendetsa gondoli wathu wodabwitsa, ananena kuti panali malamulo ena tikakhala pa gondola, tinkafunika kupereka moni kwa anthu onse odutsa ndi “Buonasera” (chakudya chamadzulo m’Chitaliyana), ndipo kupsompsona n’kofunika pa mlatho uliwonse umene timadutsapo. Pamene tinayandikira mlatho woyamba, Crystal anandiuza kuti akufuna gondola kuti makolo anga abwere nafe kuno. Bambo anga anali ochokera ku Naples, Italy ndipo anatisiya atangomenyana ndi khansa, ndinali ndikulira kale. Ndikuthokoza kuti akaganizira zimenezi, pokhala naye panyanja pamodzi ndi ana athu atatu, ndinachita chidwi kwambiri ndi kukongolako panthawiyi.
Monga momwe timapsompsona pamene tinkadutsa pansi pa mlatho, Kalev anayamba kutiyimbira mu Chiitaliya - tonse tinalira misozi ya chisangalalo, chikondi, mtendere ndi kukongola. Tinatsegula vinyo ndi cider wonyezimira amene Crystal adabweretsa, zofunda zomwe adabwera nazo kunyumba zidakutidwa pamiyendo yathu, chotupitsa chidapangidwa ndipo malingaliro odabwitsa a Newport Harbor anali odabwitsa. Tinapita kumalo otseguka kwambiri pa doko, kumene mayendedwe atatu adakumana, gondolier wathu adatitembenuza mozungulira ndikulozera nyumba zosiyanasiyana ndi mamangidwe awo apadera, mitundu yosiyanasiyana ya mabwato ndi mabwato ndi mbiri ya dera limenelo.
Pamene anatitembenuza komaliza, munaoneka kuti munali uthenga m’botolo loyandama m’madzi patsogolo pake. Kalev adatitsogolera mpaka pamenepo, adandiuza kuti nditsike pansi ndipo monga msungwana wobadwa ine ndiyenera kutsegula. Ndinachotsa corked bwino ndikukoka riboni yomwe idakulungidwa mokongola kwambiri pauthengawu.
Ndikatsegula, misozi inali ikuyenderera kale, masaya anga akuwawa chifukwa cha kumwetulira kosatha, sindinathe kutulutsa mawu olembedwa bwino kwambiri, kutha ndi "Ndimakukonda, ndimakukonda tsopano ndipo ndikulonjeza kukukonda Infinity ndi Kupitilira. Chikondi, Crystal".
Nditachiŵerenga pomalizira pake, ndinapsompsona ndi kukumbatira Crystal ndi kumuuza kuti zikomo chifukwa cha tsiku lapadera chotero ndipo ndimakukondani. Adayankhanso chimodzimodzi ndikundiuza kuti akufuna kukhala ndi ine moyo wake wonse.
Nthawi zambiri tinkalankhula mawu amenewo, choncho ndinayankha mwamsanga kuti, “Nanenso ndikufuna kukhala nanu moyo wanga wonse!” Modabwa kwambiri, Crystal anatembenukira ku bondo lake nafunsa kuti “KODI UDZANDIKWATIWA?” Nthawi yomweyo ndinati "YES!!!!" nthawi chikwi inde! 💍
Chomwe chinapangitsa mphindi iyi kukhala yabwinoko ndikuti anali ndi luso kwambiri wojambula adajambula zonse ndi drone, gondolier adajambulitsa kanema pafoni ya Crystal yemwe adatenganso matani odabwitsa. zithunzi.. nthawiyi inali YABWINO! Zinali bwino kuposa makanema, kuposa momwe ndimayembekezera, kudabwitsa kwathunthu ndipo ana athu sanangothandizira kukonzekera komanso kuchitira umboni mphindi yabwinoyi.
Sitingasiye kumwetulira, nthawi iliyonse ndikawona mphete pa chala changa zimanditengera kubwerera ku tsiku lathu lapadera, Januware 8, 2021. Wachimwemwe kukonda ndi kupepuka komanso kukhala nanu moyo wonse Mi amor! ❤️
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