TIKUFUNA KUPEZA YANKHO LA FUNSO LA MAKHALIDWE!
Mukakonzekera ukwati wanu nthawi zonse mumakumana ndi matani a mafunso omwe mwina simunakumane nawo kale. Mafunso okhudza ukwati wanu ndi zomwe muyenera kuyankha ngati mukufuna kupumula ndikupewa zovuta pamwambowo. Osadandaula kuti nkhaniyi ikuthandizani kupeza mayankho ofunikira a mafunso anu onse.
1. Kodi mabilu aukwati amagawidwa bwanji pakati pa mabanja a LGBT? Kodi makolo amalipira chiyani?
Funso laulemu silimangokhudza amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Kumbukirani, maanja onse ayenera kufunsa funso ili. Mu miyambo yakale, zimasiyana malinga ndi chikhalidwe cha okwatirana. Nthawi zina makolo a mkwatibwi amaika zambiri; nthawi zina, inali nkhani yopereka malo ndi nyumba pambuyo pake.
Ndithudi, masiku ano, okwatirana ambiri sadalira makolo awo; amalipira ngongoleyo okha. Kafukufuku wopangidwa ndi a Ukwati wa Gay Bungwe linapeza kuti 84 peresenti ya amuna ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha komanso 73 peresenti ya amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amalipira maukwati awo. Iyi ndi nkhani yomwe iyenera kukambidwa kale ndi omwe akukhudzidwa, ndipo palibe yankho limodzi kwa aliyense.
2. Kodi anthu onse a m’banjamo amayembekezeredwa kuitanidwa, ngakhale osachirikiza?
Ngakhale kuti maukwati ndi chikondwerero chosangalatsa, payeneranso kukhala ndi zokambirana. Ngati wina m'banjamo akukweza ndalama zambiri, angafunike kuitana anthu omwe angasankhe. Mufunso lodziwika bwino laulemu ngati ili, ndi mwayi woti aliyense awonetse momwe angakhalire ophatikizika.
Okwatiranawo ayenera kufotokozera achibale awo mmene akumvera ponena za kulola anthu ena osachirikiza phwandolo. Ndipo kumbali ina, banja lawo liyenera kulemekeza zofuna zawo.
3. Nanga bwanji mayina? Kodi ndingalankhule bwanji ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi amene akukwatiwa?
Maukwati a amuna kapena akazi okhaokha masiku ano akuyenda bwino kuti asasankhe anthu omwe ali nawo ngati "akwatibwi" kapena "akwatibwi." Mukayesa kupeza yankho la funso laulemuli Ganizirani za maudindo awo molingana ndi omwe si amuna kapena akazi: "abwenzi" kapena "okwatirana," mwachitsanzo. Pamene mukukayika, funsani kwa awiriwa: Kodi amauza winayo monga “mkazi” wawo kapena “mwamuna” wawo? Ngati ndi choncho, lingalirani kuti ndi bwino kuchita zomwezo.
4. Kodi dongosolo la mdulidwe ndi chiyani muukwati wa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha? Ndani amayenda amene pansi pa kanjira?
Pano pakhoza kukhala funso losokoneza maganizo kapena vuto posankha ndondomeko ya ndondomeko. M’maukwati amwambo, atate amayenda mwana wake wamkazi, mkwatibwi, kukakumana ndi mwamuna wake, mkwati.
Ndi maukwati a amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, zonse zimatengera zomwe amakonda, zomwe amakonda, komanso zopempha. Pali zosiyana pa izi, zina mwazo ndizo:
a) Palibe amene “amayenda” pansi. Mmodzi amangodikirira pafupi ndi guwa kuti mnzake afikire.
b) Onse awiri amatsogozana mkanjira, manja ali m’manja.
c) Mipando ya omvera imakonzedwa munjira ziwiri zomwe zimakumana pa guwa: Othandizana nawo amayenderana wina ndi mnzake kukakumana pakati, komabe, amakonda: kuperekezedwa ndi bwenzi kapena wachibale, kapena paokha.
(Chinthu chokhacho choyenera kukumbukira apa ndiye, ndi mayendedwe. Njira ziwiri zingafunike kukonzekera zomwe zimayang'ana mkuluyo zithunzi amatengedwa kapena kukhala ndi ojambula opitilira m'modzi pakuyimba foni.)
5. Mumasankha bwanji amene atenge dzina lomaliza?
Palibe yankho lolondola kapena lolakwika ku funso laulemu ili; zili ndi inu ndi mnzanu kusankha zochita. Mungafune kupita ndi mayina awiri omaliza, awiri apakatikati, kapena kuphatikiza kwa mayina. Komabe, kumbukirani kuti dziko lililonse lili ndi malamulo ake pazomwe zili zovomerezeka posintha dzina lanu. Ndipo lingalirani msanga; Chilolezo chanu chaukwati chingakupatseni zosankha zamtsogolo m'maboma ena.
6. Kodi pali njira yophatikizira chipembedzo pamwambowu, ngakhale miyambo ina (ndi zikhulupiliro) imafuna maudindo achikhalidwe?
Ngakhale kuti miyambo yachipembedzo ya amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ingakhale yovuta kuisunga m’malo ena olambirira ndi m’madera ena, ngati chipembedzo chili chofunika kwa inu, pali njira zochiphatikizira. Kuti mupeze yankho la funso laulemuli choyamba, chitani kafukufuku wanu. Ngakhale zipembedzo zina zimakhala zokomera LGBTQ kuposa zina, ngakhale zipembedzo zachikhalidwe zimatha kukhala ndi malo ena kapena akuluakulu amene ali ndi malingaliro amakono pa ukwati.
Ndipo ngati inu simungakhoze kuteteza wachipembedzo Malo, musaope kutengerapo maganizo anu pa nkhani zachipembedzo kapena malemba. Mawu achikhulupiriro amatha kusinthidwa ndikugwiritsidwanso ntchito kuti agwirizane ndi zochitika zomwe zimapitilira zomwe zidalipo, choncho ganizirani kulemba malumbiro anu komanso malingaliro aliwonse achipembedzo omwe ali ofunikira kwa inu. Kapena funsani woyang'anira yemwe si wachipembedzo (monga mtumiki wodzozedwa), ndipo funsani ngati angathe kusintha mwambo wanu kuti ukhale ndi zinthu zoyendetsedwa ndi chikhulupiriro popanda kupita kuchipembedzo.
Pankhani ya miyambo, yesetsani kuswa malamulo. Asilamu omwe ali ndi ukwati wa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amatha kusankha kuvala Mehndi henna (yokokedwa pamwambo pa mkwatibwi) mosasamala kanthu za kugonana kwawo, ndipo magalasi awiri akhoza kuthyoledwa pa maukwati achiyuda ndi mkwati oposa mmodzi kapena awiri akwatibwi.
Siyani Mumakonda