IINGCEBISO EZIBALULEKILE KAKHULU ZOMTHETHO OLUNGILEYO WELGBTQ
Ngoku xa usazi ukuba olu suku lukhethekileyo lomtshato wakho luyeza unokuba nemibuzo engqondweni yakho, ukuba ungayifumana phi le nto, njani loo nto, kwenzeka ntoni? Mhlawumbi asinazo zonke iimpendulo kodwa ubuncinane sineempendulo ezibaluleke kakhulu kweminye yemibuzo yakho ebaluleke kakhulu.
UKUFUMANA I-RING
Sithini isifundo somtshato? Ithi ngaphezulu kwe-90 pesenti yezibini ze-LGBTQ zinxiba umtshato iisongo, nangona amadoda ayengenamdla kangako kumakhonkco othethathethwano. Xa uthengela imisesane, qwalasela la macebiso:
- Thenga kunye. Izibini ezininzi ze-LGBTQ zifuna ukuba amaqabane omabini abe nelizwi ekukhetheni amakhonkco aza kufanekisela ukuzibophelela kwawo. Ukuthenga iringi kunye kunokunciphisa ukuzisola kweringi kwaye kukuvumela ukuba ube namakhonkco alingana ngokufanelekileyo phambi kokuba ushiye ivenkile.
- Lo asingo-1950, asikholelwa kumgaqo weringi olingana nomvuzo weenyanga ezintathu. Cinga ukuba ibhajethi yakho inokuvumela ntoni, usazi ukuba unetoni yezinye iindleko ngomtshato wakho kunye nobomi kunye.
- Phanda ngesinyithi kunye namatye anokubakho (igolide, isilivere, iplatinum, okanye i-titanium; idayimani ezimhlophe okanye zetshokolethi, iirubhi, njl.njl.) Ngaphambi kokuba ubethe ivenkile kwaye ucinge ngenyameko malunga nomsebenzi wakho kunye nendlela yokuphila.
- Kwaye uzive ukhululekile ukuvumela iringi yakho ukuba yenze ingxelo ukuba uyafuna. Unokuzama ngesinyithi, imilo, ukukrola. Ngendlela onokuhlala uyifumana LGBTQ abathengisi izacholo friendly Kwindawo yethu.
INDLELA YOKUFUMANA IPHEPHA-MVUME LOMTSHATO
Ayiyonto intle njengokuthenga imisesane kunye neegawuni, kodwa ukufumana ilayisenisi yomtshato kuyimfuneko kuwo onke amazwe angama-50, ngalinye lineemeko zalo.
- Ubuncinci iqabane elinye lexesha elizayo (kodwa kaninzi bobabini) kufuneka bavele buqu kwi-ofisi kanobhala wengingqi ukuzalisa isicelo selayisensi yomtshato phambi kwegosa. Ukuba umntu omnye okanye bobabini bangabahlali bakarhulumente, umrhumo wesicelo unokuba ngaphantsi njenge-20 yeedola. Kwizibini ezingaphandle kwelizwe inokuba ngaphezulu kwe-150 yeedola. Uninzi lwamazwe alufuni ukuba ube ngumhlali kurhulumente ukuze ufumane ilayisensi apho.
- Olunye uhlobo lokuchongwa luhlala lufuneka, ngokuqhelekileyo i-ID yesithombe kunye nobungqina benyaniso yokuzalwa, kodwa amazwe ahlukeneyo amkela amaxwebhu ahlukeneyo. Abanye bafuna isatifikethi sokuzalwa. Kuwo onke amazwe ngaphandle kwelinye, bobabini abantu kufuneka babe neminyaka eyi-18 (eNebraska, kufuneka ube neminyaka eli-19) okanye ube nemvume yabazali. Nokuba abazali bayavuma, imimandla emininzi isafuna inkundla ukuba ikwamkele umtshato ukuba ngaba umntu ungaphantsi kweminyaka eli-18. IDelaware, iFlorida, iGeorgia, iKentucky, Maryland, neOklahoma ivumela ulutsha olukhulelweyo kunye nabo sele benomntwana ukuba batshate. ngaphandle kwemvume yabazali.
- Nje ukuba ujike amaphepha, wanikezela ngobungqina besazisi, kwaye uhlawule umrhumo, unokunikwa ilayisenisi kwangoko, okanye kungathatha iintsuku ezimbalwa ukusetyenzwa. Nokuba yeyiphi na indlela, isicelo sakho asigqitywanga ngokusemthethweni de kube semva komsitho - xa isibini, igosa, kunye namangqina amabini angaphezu kwe-18 kufuneka basayine ilayisenisi. Izibini ezininzi kuye kwafuneka ukuba ziphinde zisayine iisignesha zazo ngenxa yeempazamo ezincinci, zingenisa imali eninzi kwinkqubo. Kungumsebenzi wegosa ukubuyisela ilayisenisi yomtshato kunobhala wesiphaluka, nokuba kungeposi okanye ngokobuqu. Kamva, ikopi esemthethweni neqinisekisiweyo yelayisensi yomtshato esayiniweyo ithunyelwa ngeposi kwisibini.
I-LGBTQ YOMTHOMBO YOMTSHATO
Nantsi inyani malunga neelokhwe zomtshato kunye ne-tuxes kunye nezinye izinto ezinxitywa ngabayeni kunye nabatshakazi okanye abanye abatshatileyo. Okukhona uqhelekile ngokwesini kunye nokukhetha kwakho kwefashoni, kokukhona kuya kuba lula ukufumana into oyifunayo. Cinga ngokufumana into kwi-intanethi LGBTQ-inkxaso umthengisi njengalapha kwaye ulungelelaniswe nomzimba wakho ekhaya.
Ukuba uyindoda ebhinqileyo okanye umntu ongabhinqileyo ofuna ilokhwe, okanye ibhula okanye ibhinqa eliyindoda elizama ukufumana i-tux, izinto zincinci. Ukuba uzama ukulingana itheko lomtshato lamadoda, abafazi, kunye nabantu abangabhinqileyo bonke abanxibe i-tuxedos, kunokuba nzima ngakumbi. Kodwa ungakhathazeki. Ukusukela oko ukulingana emtshatweni ibe ngumthetho welizwe, ngakumbi Nabathengisi baye baqaphela amandla edola yomnyama. Oko akuthethi ukuba bonke abatshakazi be-super-leggy transgender baya kuba lula, kodwa kulula ngoku kunangaphambili.
Olona bhejo luhamba lwasekhaya. Ndwendwela ivenkile erenta i-tux kwaye ubabuze malunga nokusebenza nabasetyhini, kunye nemitshato yesini esifanayo. Ukuba iimpendulo zivakala zinqabile, jonga kwenye indawo. Kukwanjalo nakubenzi bempahla yomtshato. Amatyathanga asekuhlaleni anceda abantu abathandanayo besini esinye, kodwa amadoda abonisa isini asenokufumana unyango olungathandekiyo, ngoko ke buza kuqala kwaye uye apho ukhululekile.
FUMELA EYAKHO UMFOTO
Xa kuza ku befoto, mhlawumbi kukho abafoti be-LGBTQ abanobuhlobo ngakumbi kunalo naluphi na uhlobo lomthengisi olufunekayo. Nangona kunjalo, ngelixa abafoti be-queer kunye ne-LGBTQ-abanobuhlobo be-LGBTQ zininzi kwisiXeko saseNew York, eLos Angeles, naseSan Francisco, izibini ezikwiidolophu ezincinci zaseMidwestern okanye eziseMazantsi zingenakho ukukhetha okuninzi.
- Zama ukusebenzisa amagama ophando afana “nomtshato wesini esinye” kunye “nomtshato wesini esinye,” nokuba ayikuchazi ncam njengesibini (abaninzi abasebenzisanayo abaneenjongo ezintle abahambisani nesigama okanye iimpawu zesazisi).
- Hlaziya iisayithi kunye neenkcazo ngononophelo ngaphambi kokuba uqhubeke. Abafoti abaninzi bayakongeza iithegi zokukhangela "gay" kunye "namalesbian" kwiiwebhusayithi zabo ukuze bazobe abathengi abaninzi, kodwa abachwethezi kakhulu Imitshato yeLGBTQ. Basenokuba ngabafoti bemitshato abanamava, kodwa uninzi lwabantu abathandanayo okanye abathandanayo abatshatileyo bakhetha umntu oyincutshe ekufotweni kwabo basekuhlaleni. Ungafumana I-100% yabafoti be-LGBTQ enobubele Kwindawo yethu.
- Buza malunga nesiseko samaxabiso kwangoko - akukho mfuneko yokuchitha ixesha kubathengisi abaphuma kuluhlu lwakho. Cinga ukuba uyamfuna na umntu oza kuzimasa yonke iminyhadala yakho yomtshato okanye unokuseta izithonga ze-studio. Ekugqibeleni, umfoti ofanelekileyo wakho ngumntu onesitayile sokubonwayo esihambelana nesitayile sakho esitshatileyo, unentlonipho, kuhlahlo lwabiwo-mali, kunye nasekhaya.
IKEyiki EKHETHEKILE KAKHULU
Kwezinye izibini ezisingise ezantsi epasejini, imalunga nelokhwe, umsesane, okanye ulwamkelo-kodwa kwiindwendwe zakho zomtshato, imalunga nekeyiki, indlela iselula kakhulu:
- Cwangcisa ukungcamla. Umbhaki kufuneka abe neesampulu ezininzi zeencasa zekeyiki ukuze ungcamle. Buza imibuzo kwaye ujonge iifoto zoyilo lwabo. Eli lixesha lokuzisa zonke iifoto obuziqokelela ukuze uzibonise into oyifunayo. Ngalo lonke ixesha unako fumana uncedo Apha.
- Ikeyiki idla ngokuba nexabiso kwisilayi ngasinye. Konke kuxhomekeke ekuzalisweni, iintlobo ze-icing (ibhotolo ishibhile kune-fondant), okanye ungakanani umsebenzi ongena kuyilo.
- Khetha ikhekhe emva kwayo yonke into. Uyakufuna ukuba ugqibe ukuba bangaphi abantu oza kubondla phambi kokuba u-odole. Kwakhona khumbula ukuba iplani ngubani oza kuhambisa ikhekhe kwindawo yolwamkelo. Iikeyiki zomtshato ezinkulu kunokuba nzima ukuthwala kunye nokuzihambisa.
IGAMA LETHU LIYAKUBA ?
Omnye wemibuzo ekhathazayo nakwesiphi na isibini esitshatileyo kukuba wenze ntoni malunga nefani. Uhlolisiso olwenziwa yi<em>The Knot lwafumanisa ukuba ama-61 ekhulwini ezibini ezingamadoda nama-77 ekhulwini amabhinqa aye atshintsha amagama ngaloo nyaka.
- Izibini ezininzi zigcina amagama abo njengophawu lokulingana phakathi kobudlelwane. Kodwa eso sigqibo sinokubangela ukuba kubekho ukhetho olunzima olungaphambili. Umzekelo, umntwana uza kuthinjwa igama likabani? Kukwakho iinkxalabo malunga nesimboli.
- Nangona umba ontsonkothileyo, kukho iindlela ezine kuphela. Eyokuqala kukungenzi nto. Olu khetho ludumile kwabo banqwenela ukubonisa uhlobo oluzimeleyo lobudlelwane. Okwesibini kukudibanisa amagama amabini, ahlala ekhethwa njengophawu lokulingana kwamaqabane. Inketho yesithathu kukuhamba ngendlela yemveli yelinye iqabane lithatha igama lomnye. Eyokugqibela kukudala igama elitsha, rhoqo ngokudibanisa amagama amabini okugqibela.
- Nokuba ukhetha ntoni na, kubalulekile ukujonga imithetho kwilizwe lakho. Amanye amazwe afuna umyalelo wenkundla wokutshintshwa kwamagama, kwaye naluphi na utshintsho lwegama luya kufuna inyathelo kuluhlu lwamaxwebhu. ezifana neelayisensi zokuqhuba, amakhadi Social Security, iirekhodi zebhanki, kunye nabanye abaninzi. Kukho uninzi lwemithombo ye-intanethi edwelisa imithetho kunye neemfuno ngurhulumente, kodwa le inokuba yindawo apho ufuna uthethwano lomthetho lomntu.
Ewe, siyathemba ukuba emva kokufunda eli nqaku unemibuzo encinci ngaphandle kweempendulo. Khumbula ukuba unokuhlala ufumana abathengisi abanobuhlobo be-LGBTQ kwindawo yethu kwaye uqiniseke ukuba umtshato wakho uya kuba ngogqibeleleyo!
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