NJENGOMSEBENZI WASEWSHINI: IINGCEBISO ZOCWANGCISO EZBALULEKILEYO ZOMTSHATO WAKHO we-LGBTQ
Ukuba sele cwangciso umsitho wakho womtshato mhlawumbi kufuneka ingqalelo kwezi zinto kakhulu. Nazi ezinye iingcebiso zokucwangcisa ukuba wenze umsitho wakho kanye njengoko ufuna.
Ziziphi ezinye zeengcamango ezizodwa ngendlela isibini esisondela ngayo kumngcelele waso?
Isibini ngasinye sahlukile kwindlela abasondela ngayo kumngcelele womsitho kwaye akukho "ndlela ilungileyo" yokuyenza nokuba Umtshato weLGBTQ okanye hayi. Olona guqulelo ludumileyo silubonile kunye nabatshatileyo kukuhamba ngaxeshanye phantsi kweepaseji ezahlukeneyo baze badibane phakathi. Esinye sezibini sakhetha ukuba neepaseji ezintathu; ngamnye wabo wehla ngepaseji yakhe macala omabini eendwendwe ngaxeshanye, wadibana ngaphambili, emva koko wehla umbindi wepaseji kunye ekupheleni komsitho wabo. Esinye isibini sakhetha iipaseji ezimbini esathi sangena kuso ngasinye ngaxeshanye.
Enye inketho ethandwayo kukuba amaqabane ahamba kunye, mhlawumbi ngesandla, ezantsi kwendlela. Ukuba iqela labo lomtshato likwahamba kwi-processional, abalindi banokudibaniswa nomnye kwicala ngalinye (kungakhathaliseki ukuba sini) baze bahlukane xa befika ngaphambili ukuze bame kwicala abalimeleyo. Ezinye izibini zikhetha ukuhlanganisa umngcelele kunye kwaye zingene nje ecaleni, ngelixa ezinye zinokukhetha umnyhadala womsitho "wemveli" kunye neqabane ngalinye lingena nabazali babo ezantsi kwendlela.
Yintoni esiyibonayo kwindlela yokuhlala kumsitho ongaqhelekanga?
Ukukhetha “icala” ngexesha lomsitho sisithethe esiye saphuma kakhulu kwisitayile semitshato emininzi, nokuba sisini esinye okanye sithandana nesini esahlukileyo. Ngokunyaniseka asinakukhumbula ixesha lokugqibela sasizimase umtshato apho isibini sasifuna ukuba iindwendwe zabo zihlale kwicala elithile. Oko kuthethiweyo, sibona izibini ziqala ukwenza ubugcisa kumalungiselelo abo okuhlala. Imibhiyozo ngaphandle kwendlela okanye indawo yokuhlala "ejikelezweni" iye yathandwa kakhulu kuzo zonke izibini ezitshatileyo, kungakhathaliseki ukuba zifana nesini okanye akunjalo.
Izibini zihamba njani ngokukhetha itheko labo lomtshato? Zeziphi ezinye zeendlela ezivelayo apho?
Izinto zokuqala kuqala, makhe silungelelanise ulwimi. Sihlala sikhetha ukuthi "itheko lomtshato" kunokuba "itheko lomtshakazi" kungakhathaliseki ukuba kukho umtshakazi emtshatweni okanye akunjalo - yindlela ebandakanya ngakumbi. Uninzi lwezibini ezitshatileyo, nokuba zingabantu besini esinye okanye akunjalo, zinemitshato exubeneyo yesini kunye namanenekazi nabafana bemi macala omabini omsitho wokutshintsha ngoko bathi “itheko lomtshato” lidla ngokufanela zonke izibini.
Kule minyaka imbalwa idlulileyo siye sabona umkhwa oncike kumatheko amancinci omtshato, nomntu omnye okanye ababini kwicala ngalinye, yonke indlela yokungabinamsitho womtshato kwaphela. Xa izibini zikhetha ukulahla itheko lomtshato zihlala zikhetha umntu okhethekileyo, njengomzali okanye umntakwabo, ukuba abe lingqina lokusayina ilayisenisi yomtshato ngasese emva komsitho.
Zeziphi ezinye zeembono zokutshintshiselana ngesifungo kwabatshatileyo?
Siye sabona izibini zinezithethe kakhulu kunye nezibhambathiso zakudala (zitshintshwe kancinane) kwaye banokucima ohamba kuqala kwizibhambathiso kwaye ngubani oya kuqala iisongo. Ngamaxesha amaninzi, isibini sikhetha ukubhala izibhambathiso zaso kwaye siyenze ibe yeyomntu ngakumbi.
Isibizo esidumileyo esiye sabona sisetyenziswa kwizifungo zomsitho sithi “intanda” kunokuthi “indoda” okanye “umfazi”; kodwa kwakhona kuxhomekeke kwisibini kunye nezihloko abazisebenzisayo kubudlelwane babo.
Yintoni ehamba phambili kwindlela izibini ze-LGBTQ ezisondela ngayo kwimbonakalo yokuqala?
Konke oku kuxhomekeke kubudlelwane babo! Olona khetho luxhaphakileyo esilubonileyo kukujikela ngaxeshanye kwiNjongo yokuQala, kunokuba umntu omnye anyuke aye komnye umntu. Siyayithanda le kuba yongeza into edlalwayo ngokujika kokubini ngaxeshanye kwaye iimpendulo zihlala zenza ifoto entle!
Siye sabona okuninzi “kwemveli” Kuqala Kujongwa apho umntu omnye kubudlelwane ekufanele kakhulu ukuma nokulinda ngelixa omnye ekufanele ukuhamba phezulu ngexesha lokuJonga kokuQala.
Omnye umkhwa esiwubonayo kukuba isibini silungiselele kunye kwaye singenzi ukuJonga okokuqala kodwa siphume kunye siqale ukuthatha. iifoto. Basenokutshintshiselana ngekhadi okanye isipho phambi kwexesha lefoto elilithuba elihle lomzuzu osondeleleneyo kunye neemvakalelo. Ngokwenene kuxhomekeke koko kukulingana wena kunye nobuntu beqabane lakho ngcono!
Ngokunyaniseka, xa ucwangcisa umtshato ugxile kwaba bantu babini, ubudlelwane babo, kunye nendlela abafuna ukwenza ngayo imini yabo; yindlela efanayo kungakhathaliseki ukuba bangabantu besini esinye okanye abanesini esahlukileyo. Uninzi lwezibini ezitshatileyo zikhetha kwaye zikhetha (ukuba zikhona) izithethe ezingathanda ukuzibandakanya; kwaye ngenxa yokuba isibini sesini esinye ayithethi ukuba abanakuba "yemveli" kwi
ingqiqo yomtshato, sabona izibini ze-LGBTQ zesintu kunye nabatshakazi abangengabo bemveli & nabakhwenyana. Into enomdla kukuba, nokuba sisiphi na isini, ufumana ukwenza umbhiyozo obonisa isibini kunye nothando lwabo!
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