MAMELA APHA: IZIFUNDO ZOMTHETHO WAKHO OPHELELEYO WELGBTQ
Ukuba ufuna ukukhetha ukufundwa komsitho wakho ke ngumsebenzi omhle kuwe. Nazi ezinye iziqwenga ezintle ngokwenene malunga nothando - oluphuma kwimithombo eyahlukeneyo - ukukhuthaza yakho umtshato wesini izibhambathiso. Nokuba ujonge i-liner emfutshane kunye neswiti enye ukongeza kwimibono yakho yomsitho womtshato we-gay okanye ivuthwe ngokupheleleyo umtshato wesini imibongo yokongeza amaxesha achukumisayo kumtshato wakho wesini esifanayo, sikuphathele. Ewe kunjalo, igosa lakho lomtshato liya kukunceda wenze umsitho wakho kwaye unokuba nemibono eyongezelelweyo yokufunda ukwenza umtshato wakho ube ngowakho.
Moulin Rouge
“Eyona nto ibalaseleyo uya kuyifunda kukuthanda, nokuthandwa ngokubuyisela.”
Uluvo oluninzi lukaJustice Anthony Kennedy kwiHodges v. Obergefell
“Alukho umanyano olunzulu njengomtshato, kuba luquka eyona milinganiselo iphakamileyo yothando, ukuthembeka, ukuzinikela, ukuzincama nentsapho. Ekwakheni umanyano lomtshato, abantu ababini baba yinto enkulu kunangaphambili. Njengoko abanye babaceli kwezi meko bebonisa, umtshato uquka uthando olunokunyamezela kwanaxa sele ufile. Ibingayiqondi kakuhle into yokuba la madoda nabafazi bathi abayihloniphi imbono yomtshato. Isibongozo sabo sesokuba balihloniphe, balihloniphe ngokunzulu kangangokuba bafune ukuzifumanela inzaliseko yalo. Ithemba labo alinakugwetyelwa ukuhlala ubulolo, likhutshelwa ngaphandle kwelinye lawona maziko amadala empucuko. Bacela isidima esilinganayo emehlweni omthetho. UMgaqo-siseko uyabanika elo lungelo.”
UBarbara Cage
"Uthando yintsebenziswano yabantu ababini abahlukileyo abavelisa okona kulungileyo omnye komnye, kwaye abaziyo ukuba nangona bebahle njengabantu ngabanye, bangcono ngakumbi xa bekunye."
Wild Awake nguHilary T. Smith
“Abantu bafana nezixeko: Sonke sineendledlana nezitiya nophahla olufihlakeleyo kunye neendawo apho kuhluma iintyatyambo phakathi kweentanda zendledlana, kodwa amaxesha amaninzi ekuphela kwento esibonisana ngayo kukubona iposikhadi ebonisa isibhakabhaka okanye isikwere esikhazimlisiweyo. Uthando lukuvumela ukuba ufumane ezo ndawo zifihliweyo komnye umntu, kwanabo bebengazazi ukuba zikhona, kwanabo bebengacinganga ukuzibiza ngokuba bahle ngokwabo.”
IWarsan Shire
“Xa ndithanda, ndithanda: ngokupheleleyo, ngokupheleleyo, ngokupheleleyo, ndintywila kuyo yonke into. Ukjonga ngakunye inokuba yincoko, amehlo adlala nje kwaye athethe into ekufuneka ithethwe. Kuthe cwaka, kwaye umoya uya unzima. Ndiyakufuna. Ndifuna nonke.”
UbuGcisa bomtshato nguWilferd Arlan Peterson
“Umtshato olungileyo umele udalwe.
Kubugcisa bomtshato izinto ezincinci zizinto ezinkulu--
Asikokuba mdala kakhulu ukubambana ngezandla.
Kukukhumbula ukuthi 'ndiyakuthanda' ubuncinane kanye ngosuku.
Ayisoze ilale inomsindo.
Kukuba nengqiqo efanayo yokuxabiseka kunye neenjongo ezifanayo.
Imi kunye ijonge kwihlabathi.
Kukwenza isangqa sothando esihlanganisana kwintsapho yonke.
Kukuthetha amazwi oxabiso nawokubonisa umbulelo ngeendlela ezicingisisiweyo.
Kukukwazi ukuxolela nokulibala.
Kukunikana i emoyeni apho ngamnye angakhula khona.
Kuvulela indawo izinto zomoya.
Luphando oluqhelekileyo lokufuna okulungileyo nokuhle.
Ayikokutshata kuphela iqabane elifanelekileyo--
Kukuba liqabane elifanelekileyo.”
Maya Angelou
“Uthando alunamiqobo. Itsiba imiqobo, itsibe iingcingo, igqobhoze ezindongeni ukuze ifike apho isiya khona izele lithemba.”
Umculi woMtshato
“Ndifuna ukwenza ukuba uncume nanini na xa ukhathazekile
Hamba nawe xa isifo samathambo sibi
Into endifuna ukuyenza kukuguga nawe
Ndiza kuwafumana amayeza akho xa isisu sakho sibuhlungu
Ukwakhela umlilo ukuba iziko liyaphuka
Owu kungamnandi kakhulu, ukuguga nawe
Ndiza kukhumbula
Ncamise wena
Ndinike ingubo yam xa ugodola
Ndiyakudinga
Yondla wena
Nokuvumela ukuba ubambe isilawuli kude
Ndiyeke ndiyohlamba izitya kwi sinki yethu yasekhitshini
Lala ukuba ubusele kakhulu
Ndingaba yindoda eguga nawe
Ndifuna ukuguga nawe”
UAmy Tan
Ndifana nenkwenkwezi ethe ekugqibeleni yafumana indawo yayo ecaleni kwelinye kwikroza elithandekayo, apho siya kubengezela emazulwini ngonaphakade.
Ndithwele intliziyo yakho nam” by ee cummings
"Ndihamba nentliziyo yakho (ndiyayifaka
Intliziyo yam) andisoze ndingabi nayo (naphi na
ndiyahamba, sithandwa sam; kunye nantoni na eyenziwayo
nguwe kuphela owenzayo, sithandwa sam)
ndiyoyika
Akukho siphelo (ngokuba ulikamva lam, isithandwa sam) ndiyakufuna
Akukho mhlaba (umhle ulihlabathi lam, yinyani yam)
kwaye nguwe nantoni na ehlala ithetha ngayo inyanga
kwaye nantoni na ilanga liya kuhlala licula nguwe
nantsi eyona mfihlo inzulu akukho mntu uyaziyo
(nantsi ingcambu yengcambu kunye nehlumela lehlumela
nesibhakabhaka somthi obizwa ngokuba bubomi; ekhula
phezulu kunomphefumlo ungathemba okanye ingqondo inokuzifihla)
kwaye lo ngummangaliso ogcina iinkwenkwezi zahlukene
ndithwele intliziyo yakho (ndiyithwele entliziyweni yam)”
"Ayinasihloko" nguChristina Rossetti
“Yintoni isiqalo? Uthando.
Yintoni ikhosi. Uthando nangoku.
Yintoni injongo. Injongo luthando.
Kwinduli eyonwabileyo.
Ngaba akukho nto ngaphandle kothando?
Khangela thina isibhakabhaka okanye umhlaba
Akukho nto iphuma kuThando
Inexabiso elingunaphakade:
Zonke izinto iflegi kodwa uthando kuphela,
Zonke izinto ziyasilela kwaye zibaleke;
Akhonto iseleyo ngaphandle koThando
Sifanele mna nawe.”
"Kwaye Ndinawe" nguNikki Giovanni
Imilambo ineebhanki
Iisanti zonxweme
Intliziyo inokubetha kwentliziyo
Lonto indenza owakho
Iinaliti zinamehlo
Nangona izikhonkwane zinokuhlaba
UElmer uneglu
Ukwenza izinto zibambelele
Ubusika buneNtwasahlobo
Stockings iinyawo
Ipepile ineminti
Ukwenza kube mnandi
Ootitshala banezifundo
Isuphu ngeyure
Amagqwetha amangalela abantu ababi
Oogqirha bayaphilisa
Konke kunye nakho konke
Oku kuyinyaniso
Unam
Nam ndinawe”
Shiya iMpendulo