UNGAZE UBUZE I-LGBTQ COUPLES EZIBANDAKADE NGOKU
Ukuba ufumana iindaba ezimnandi kubahlobo bakho ukuba bathembisene ngoku, siqinisekile ukuba uyonwabile kwaye unomdla wokwazi. Basenokuba banemibuzo emininzi evela macala onke, ke qiniseka ukuba awongezi izimvo okanye imibuzo enokuthi ibe naluvelwano.
Ngaba uya kuba nomtshato “oqhelekileyo”?
Ukunyaniseka, imisitho yokuzibophelela ye-LGBTQ yexesha elidlulileyo ayizange ibonise ngokusondeleyo imibhiyozo ebesingethe izibini ezithe ngqo. Nangona kunjalo, njengoko ithi kwaye, ekugqibeleni, isizwe, saqaphela ukulingana emtshatweni, izibini ezininzi zesini esifanayo zaqala ukuba nemitshato emihle yendabuko kunye nazo zonke izilungiso zabalingane babo abathe tye. Oku akuthethi ukuba umtshato wakho wokuqala wesini esifanayo awuyi kubandakanya ukugoba okumbalwa kwesini okanye izinto ezimangalisayo zenkcubeko, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo uya kulandela ulwandlalo lweminye imitshato oye waya kuyo kunye nomsitho omfutshane, iyure ye-cocktail kunye ulwamkelo olunomculo omninzi kunye nokudanisa. Ke, tsiba lo mbuzo, RSVP "ewe" kwaye ulungele ukuba nexesha elimnandi!
Ngoko ke, ngubani kuni oyindoda/umfazi?
Ukuba abantu abathandanayo besini esinye babene-nickel ngalo lonke ixesha bebuzwa ukuba yeyiphi indoda (kubudlelwane besinibhini) okanye ibhinqa (kubudlelwane obufanayo)….bekuya kubakho iinikeli ezininzi. Nangona oku kunokubonakala ngathi ngumbuzo omsulwa okanye ohlekisayo, ngokwenene uyakhubekisa. Kwanele xa kusithiwa kukho abafazi ababini abathe batshata, akukho ndoda kubudlelwane. Okufanayo kuya kumadoda amabini atshatileyo - akukho namnye kubo ongumfazi. Ngelixa abanye abantu be-LGBTQ benokukhetha iintetho zesini ezingahambelani nesini ababebelwa ngaso ekuzalweni (okt ibhinqa elikhululekileyo kwiimpahla zamadoda, kwaye ke ngoko likhetha isuti okanye i-tux yomtshato), ngaphandle kokuba zichonge njenge-trans okanye isini-fluid, ababi sesinye isini.
Siqhekeza nini ukuba “Kunetha Madoda?” Ngaphambi okanye emva kokusebenza kweGay Chorus?
Ngelixa singenako ukutsho ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba umhlobo wakho okanye ilungu losapho lwakho bacwangcise ntoni ngomtshato wabo, ayizukujongeka ngathi yiparade ye-Pride okanye omnye umcimbi wabahlali be-LGBTQ. Musa ukulindela ukuba ubone utshintshiselwano olungcwele lomnyama iiflegi okanye ubenzele umhobe wezitabane ngexesha lomdaniso wokuqala. Oku akuthethi ukuba awuzukuva "Ndiyaphuma" okanye "Uthando Olufanayo" ngexesha lolwamkelo, okanye ufumane ukunqwala kancinci kuluntu lweLGBTQ ngaxa lithile ngokuhlwa, kodwa kukutsho ukuba “ ikratshi” linokuthetha izinto ezahlukahlukeneyo kubantu abahlukahlukeneyo. Kwabaninzi abathandanayo besini esifanayo, isiko le-LGBTQ aliyi kuchaphazela imitshato yabo njengoko bekhetha ukugxila ekubeni bangoobani na njengabantu ngabanye nanjengesibini.
Awuzokutshatela ecaweni andithi?
Kuyinyani ukuba iinkolo ezininzi bezisoloko zisamkela abanquli be-LGBTQ, kodwa loo nto itshintsha ngokukhawuleza, kwaye abantu abaninzi abathandana besini esifanayo bakhetha iindawo zokunqula kwimisitho yabo yomtshato. Ukusuka kwimibhiyozo yesiNtu ukuya kwimitshato edityaniswe nezithethe zenkolo yobuJuda ukuya kwimitshato yamaKristu agcinayo, amaqabane athandana namanye amabhinqa kunye namaqabane angatshatanga aneendlela ezininzi zokukhetha ukuhlonipha ukholo lwawo ngexesha lomtshato. Kwaye nangona abantu abaninzi be-LGBTQ bephila ubomi behlabathi, kunokuba buhlungu ukucinga ukuba isibini esitshatileyo esithandanayo asiyonkolo, okanye sinobudlelwane obuphikisanayo nenkolo.
Ngaba ningomtshakazi oza kuba nemincili ngokuthenga iimpahla zokunxiba?
Isinxibo somtshato sesinye sezona ntlobo zibalaseleyo ze Imitshato yeLGBTQ, ngakumbi kwizibini ezinabafazi ababini. Ngenxa yokuba iigals zakho ezimbini ezizithandayo ziye zagqiba ekubeni zithembisene, musa ukuba nemincili kakhulu malunga nethemba lokubona iingubo ezimbini zomtshato zendabuko. Amaqashiso, nangona ingengawo onke, amabhinqa angamaqhetseba aya kuziva ekhululekile kwisinxibo somtshato esingeyiyo eyesintu ilokhwe yomtshato. Ngokufuthi, omnye umtshakazi uya kunxiba into ebonisa ubufazi ngakumbi, njengelokhwe, yaye omnye umtshakazi uya kunxiba into ebonisa ubudoda, njengesuti. Ngamanye amaxesha, bobabini abatshakazi baya kunxiba iibhulukhwe okanye iisuti. Ukanti ngamanye amaxesha, bobabini abatshakazi baya kukhetha iilokhwe, enye ingumthunzi omhlophe, omnye ngomnye umbala. Amathuba angenasiphelo kwimitshato emibini yomtshakazi, ngoko endaweni yokubuza lo mbuzo, vele ubonise kwaye ulungele ukumangaliswa!
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