Umcwangcisi woMtshato uJove Meyer weSabelo seNjani yokuDala owona Mtshato uWenzelwe uMntu

Jove Meyer, yiya-ku umcwangcisi kwizibini ze-LGBTQ+, ityhila iingcebiso zomtshato wohlobo olulodwa ongowakho ngokwenene.

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Siye sahlala phantsi nomcwangcisi womtshato uJove Meyer, eBrooklyn, eNew York-umnini kunye nomlawuli woyilo Iziganeko zeJove Meyer-kwaye ubuchopho ngasemva I-Knot Dream isibini somtshato u-Elena Della Donne kunye no-Amanda Clifton's fall 2017 nuptials-ukuthetha malunga namava akhe njenge tastemaker kushishino lothando. Kukhuselekile ukuthi uyazi into okanye ezimbini malunga nokucwangcisa imitshato ye-LGBTQ+ ethetha ngokuthe ngqo kwizibini ezitshatileyo kwaye izise eyona mibono iphakamileyo ebomini. Ukusuka kwisithethe sokuphosa ngokupheleleyo ukuya ekudaleni ezikhethekileyo zakho, nantsi indlela yokwenza usuku lwakho lomtshato lube lolohlobo kwaye lolwakho ngokwenene.

Kulula ukuba izibini zibambeke kwingcamango yento “efanele ziyenze” ngosuku lwazo lomtshato. Liliphi icebiso onalo kwabo banethemba lokubeka ubuqu kwizithethe?

“Akukho mithetho yokwenyani xa kufikwa kwimitshato ye-LGBTQ +, ke ndikhuthaza zonke izibini ukuba zizenzele eyazo. Oko kuthethwa, thatha inyathelo emva kwaye uzibuze ukuba kutheni uthatha inxaxheba kwisithethe esithile. Ngaba inentsingiselo yobuqu kuwe nakwiqabane lakho, okanye ngaba uyenza kuba nje ilindelwe? Umtshato wakho awufanele uzaliswe zizithethe zamandulo okanye amaxesha angenantsingiselo—zonke iinkcukacha zimele zivakalelwe ngokwenyani kuwe.”

Zeziphi ezinye iindlela ezizodwa ze-LGBTQ+ izibini ezinokubeka isitampu sobuqu kumsitho wazo?

“Imitshato yeLGBTQ+ isentsha kangangokuba izibini zinokwenza nantoni na ezifuna ukubhiyozela umanyano lwazo. Dlala apho umsitho uya khona indawo, indlela eyenzeka ngayo kwaye ngubani obandakanyekayo. Bamba umsitho kumjikelo oneendlela ezine, okanye umeme iindwendwe kumsitho wokuma ngaphandle kwepaseji kunye nezitulo.”

Ngowuphi umzekelo wendlela oye wasinceda ngayo isibini ukuba sijike imithetho?

“Kutshanje ndisebenze nabakhwenyana ababini abajike umngcelele wabo entloko ngokuqokelela iindwendwe kwindawo yendibano phambi kokuqala komsitho. Kunokuba sehle epasejini sijonge kubo, esi sibini sacela abahlobo nentsapho ukuba behle ngepaseji ukuya ngasesibingelelweni, bafike balinde nomphathi waso.”

Xa uphanda izinto ezinokubakho emtshatweni, yeyiphi eyona ndlela ilula yokufumanisa ukuba umthengisi okanye indawo ye-LGBTQ+ inobuhlobo? 

“Umcwangcisi wakho kufuneka abe nakho ukungqina amanye amashishini acinga ngokulingana. Unokujonga kwakhona kwiwebhusayithi yomthengisi ukuze ubone ukuba kukho na iifoto okanye ulwazi lubonisa inkxaso kwi-LGBTQ+ izibini. Ukuba uyawuthanda umsebenzi wabo kodwa usilele ukubona inkxaso ecacileyo ye ukulingana emtshatweni kwi-bio yabo ekwi-intanethi okanye kwigalari, thumela i-imeyile ebuza ngeenkonzo zabo.”

Funda ngakumbi malunga nokufumana ii-LGBTQ-friendly pros Apha.