YINTONI UMAHLUKO? IIINDLELA ZOCWANGCISO LOMTSHATO we-LGBTQ
Uthando luphumelela rhoqo, kwaye umtshato umalunga naloo nto kuphela. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha akulula kangako xa kufika ixesha lokuba isibini sesini esinye sicwangcise umsitho waso. Apha sineendlela zokucwangcisa Umtshato weLGBTQ inokwahluka.
Okokuqala, kufuneka uqiniseke ukuba umtshato wakho uya kuba semthethweni
Kukho iinzuzo ezininzi kwihlabathi jikelele malunga ne ukulingana emtshatweni, kodwa kusekho iindawo ezingayi kukhupha izibini zesini esifanayo kunye nephepha-mvume lomtshato, kuquka i-Australia apho abantu besini esifanayo 'banokutshata' kuphela ngomsitho wokuzibophelela. Ngethamsanqa, amazwe amaninzi nangakumbi aqalisa ukuwisa umthetho ohambelana nezimo zengqondo ezixhaphakileyo zokwamkelwa koluntu, ngoko ke unokufumana intaphane yeendawo ezintle zokuthi “Ndiyayenza.”
Ungasibekela ecaleni isithethe ... ukuba uyafuna
Kukho iindawo kunye nezithethe ezijikeleze umtshato wesini esithe ngqo, kodwa ngomsitho womtshato wesini esifanayo akukho nto ilindelekileyo (kuhle, ngaphandle kwabantu ababini abathi 'Ndiyayenza'). Endaweni yoko, konke kumalunga nokudala izithethe zakho ukuqala ubomi bomtshato kunye nendibaniselwano egqibeleleyo endala kunye entsha. Ngaba ufuna ukunyuka kwipaseji ungakhatshwa? Ziphose kuyo. Ngaba ufuna ukujula iqhina lesilika endaweni yegarter? Umnxeba wakho ngokupheleleyo. Ngaba ufuna ukwabelana ngetheko lomtshato kunokuba ube neempelesi kunye nabakhwenyana? Ingcinga entle. Khumbula nje: ngumtshato wakho, ngoko zive ukhululekile ukubanga ngendlela yakho ekhethekileyo.
Okubuhlungu kukuba, ucalucalulo lunokuba yingxaki
Xa kuziwa kwindawo yakho, iintyatyambo, ikeyiki, impahla kunye nayo nayiphi na enye into enxulumene nomtshato, uninzi abathengisi bomtshato bathandeka ngokwenene, kwaye bayaqonda ukuba uthando luthando. Kodwa, ngokwenyani, awunakungayihoyi into yokuba nangona kungekho semthethweni ukwenza njalo - ngamalungelo akho afakwe kumthetho - abanye abathengisi bomtshato banokungabi naso isimo sengqondo samkelekileyo ekusebenzeni kumtshato weLGBT. Kulihlazo, kodwa khumbula, ukuba ngamanye amaxesha oku mathidala kunokuvela nje ukunqongophala amava ukukhonza umtshato gay, ukuze ufumane isikhokelo esincinane kanye imeko ifuna.
Ifashoni yakho yothando inokubaleka
Iituksi ezimbini? Iilokhwe ezimbini? Zimbini enye into? Umbuzo wokuba unxibe ntoni kumtshato wakho wesini esinye ngowokufuneka ucingisise - kuba akukho 'mithetho' ngolo hlobo. Yaye ivuyisa kangakanani loo nto? Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, nge-carte blanche ukujonga kwaye uzive kanye ngendlela ofuna ngayo, isibhakabhaka singumda, nokuba yi-goth, i-glam, i-grunge okanye enye into ekhethekileyo kwaye ngokungathandabuzekiyo nguwe.
Uluhlu lweendwendwe lunokuba luqili kancinci ukujula
Nokuba ubungakanani okanye ithoni yomtshato wakho, ukujongisisa uluhlu lweendwendwe kunokuba ngumngeni. Kodwa izizathu zinokwahluka kakhulu ngokuthe ngqo kunye ne-LGBTcouples. Ngokomzekelo, umtshakazi nomyeni basenokucingisisa ngendlela yokwanelisa wonke umntu abamfunayo. Isibini se-LGBT, nangona kunjalo, ngelishwa, sinokugxila ekubeni ngubani oya kuthi 'ewe' kwisimemo, sikhumbula ukuba uluntu lubandakanya uluhlu olubanzi kakhulu lwezimvo malunga nomba womtshato we-gay. Nangona iyaphuma, unokukhuthazeka kwinto yokuba kwi yakho usuku lomtshato uya kungqongwa kuphela ngabantu abanqwenelela umanyano lwenu nto ngaphandle kokona kulungileyo ... okoko nje nisaphila nobabini!
Amaqela ngawakho ukuba uzenzele wena
Yintoni enokuba mnandi ngaphezu kwe-bachelorette okanye i-hen's party kumtshakazi? Amaqela amabini e-bachelorette okanye ama-hens amaqabane amabini. Okanye ubusuku obudibeneyo be-buck kubakhwenyana ababini. Okanye into eyahlukileyo ngokupheleleyo. Mhlawumbi umyeni angathanda ukuba nosuku lokutotoswa kunokuba alale ebusuku? Okanye abatshakazi banabahlobo abaninzi kakhulu abanokuthi bakhethe ukuba nesidlo sasemini esidibeneyo kunemibhiyozo eyahlukileyo. Njengayo nayiphi na into enxulumene nomtshato - hayi nje kubantu abathandana besini esinye - imalunga nokujonga izinto onokukhetha kuzo, uqwalasela indlela ongathanda ukuyibhiyozela ngayo imitshato yakho ezayo kunye nosapho kunye nabahlobo (kunye neecocktails ezinokwenzeka), kwaye emva koko uhambe ukusuka apho.
Ukuqinisekisa ukuba iindwendwe zakho ze-LGBT ziya kukhululeka?
Nokuba ngumtshato wendawo okanye enye ejikeleze ikona uya kufuna ukuchitha ixesha elincinci uqinisekisa ukuba Iindawo- kunye neendawo ze-honeymoon - zonke zinobubele be-LGBT ngenene - hayi nje kwizinto abanokuthi bazenze, kodwa kwinto abaza kuyenza ukudala imvakalelo yokwenyani yokwamkela nokubandakanywa. Indlela entle yokwenza oku kukuncokola nabaphathi, abasebenzi kunye nabathengisi abanokubakho, kwaye ujonge nobungqina babo, ukufumanisa imvelaphi yabo kwimitshato yesini esifanayo kunye nolonwabo abaluthathayo ekuncedeni ukudala iintsuku zamaphupha. Oku kuya kunceda ekuqinisekiseni ukuba ukhetha iindawo ezigqibeleleyo kunye neengcali kungekuphela nje kuwe kodwa nakwiindwendwe zakho ze-LGBT ukuze wonke umntu aphumle kwaye onwabele usuku kwinkxaso. emoyeni.
Ungadibanisa izihlalo zomsitho
Kwimibhiyozo yamaKristu yakudala, kuqhelekile ukuba intsapho yomtshakazi ihlale ngakwesobunxele kwaye umyeni ngakwesokudla. Kodwa xa unomtshakazi okanye abakhwenyana ababini, loo ngcamango ‘yeyakhe’ ‘nowakhe’ isenokubhida. Ke, xa ucwangcisa umtshato wamafanasini, indlela elula kodwa ekrelekrele yokujikeleza oku kukuba namacala anikezelwe ngamagama akho okanye, njengoko izibini ezininzi zanamhlanje zenza njalo, sebenzisa nje umxholo onje: “Namhlanje, iintsapho ezimbini ziba nye, ke nceda , khetha isihlalo kungekhona icala.”
Iindima zesini zinokufuna ukuchazwa kwakhona
Umtshato wesini esithe tye uneendima ezininzi okanye amaxesha achazwa ngokwesini. Ngokomzekelo, umyeni usenokulinda esibingelelweni ukuze umtshakazi wakhe ahambe epasejini, eyona ndoda ilungileyo isenokulindelwa ukuba imthwalele. iisongo, i mfa nekiso basenokwenza umtshakazi nomyeni ngandlel’ ithile, kusenokubakho ukuphoswa kwesinxibo sokuphoswa kwesinxibo okanye isipha sezimbali, okanye umyeni usenokufuna ukunikela intetho egameni lakhe nomfazi wakhe omtsha. Ke ngekhefu kwisithethe somtshato we-LGBT unokubonelela, ayifanelanga ukuba abathengisi bakho, i-MC kunye namanye amaqela abandakanyekayo anokwamkela unxibelelwano olucacileyo nolwakwangoko malunga nendlela ocinga ngayo usuku lwakho olukhulu lubaleka, ngakumbi njengoko luvumela igalelo lobungcali. Umzekelo, kumtshato wesini esithe ngqo mfa nekiso banokujolisa uninzi lwexesha labo langaphambi komtshato kumtshakazi kwaye lincinci kumyeni, kodwa ngabatshakazi ababini banokucebisa ukusebenzisa i-snapper yesibini ukwenza bobabini abasetyhini ubulungisa ngokulinganayo.
Uhlahlo lwabiwo-mali lunokwahluka
Zonke izibini kufuneka unamathele kuhlahlo lwabiwo-mali xa uceba umtshato (okanye ubuncinane uzame), kodwa kwisibini esithandanayo, sinokuthi sihlangane ngokwahlukileyo kunokonakaliswa kweendleko zemveli. Umzekelo, endaweni a Igawuni yomtshato kunye ne-tuxedo eqeshiweyo, umtshato we-gay unokubandakanya abakhwenyana ababini abafuna iisuti zomyili ezihambelanayo kodwa ezingafaniyo. Okanye mhlawumbi abatshakazi ababini baphupha ngokufika kumsitho kwi-limousine. Kwaye mhlawumbi akukho khekhe lomyeni konke konke. Kwakhona, njengayo nayiphi na into enxulumene nohlahlo lwabiwo-mali lomtshato, imalunga nokuhlala phantsi kwasekuqaleni, ukuseta uhlahlo lwabiwo-mali, uchaze umbono wakho ngokwezinto eziphambili kwaye ujonge indlela yokwenza ukuba kwenzeke.
Ekupheleni kosuku, nangona kunjalo, xa ubeka le yantlukwano ecaleni, yonke imitshato yesini esithe ngqo kunye ne-LGBT yabelana ngeyona nto ibalulekileyo kuyo yonke into-imvakalelo esisiseko yabantu ababini abadibanayo ukuza kuthembisa uthando olungafiyo. Sisithembiso sokuba kuyo yonke loo nto baya kuba nomqolo omnye komnye. Kwaye loo nto, nokuba ungubani na, yinto entle.
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