MAFUNSO OWAPATSA KWAMBIRI UKWATI WA LGBTQ: TIDZAYANKHA!
Ngati simunapiteko ku ukwati wa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, tili ndi nkhani zina zomwe zingakhale zoipa: Sikuti ndizosiyana kwambiri ndi maukwati owongoka. Komabe, maukwati pakati pa anthu a LGBTQ akadali osowa, ndipo mwayi uli, mutha kukhala ndi mafunso oyaka moto pazomwe mungayembekezere kuchokera kwa woyamba wanu. Ngakhale maziko aukwati sangasiyane kwambiri ndi maukwati omwe mudapitako m'mbuyomu - mwambo waufupi, ola lachisangalalo ndiyeno phwando - mwina padzakhala kusiyana kwina kokhudzana ndi jenda komwe mungakhale. chidwi cha. Onetsetsani kuti simukufunsa funso lililonse laukwati lopanda amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, ndiye onani mndandandawu kuti mupeze mayankho a mafunso onse omwe ndi ovuta kufunsa!
Kodi mwambowu ukhala wachipembedzo?
Izi zimatengera banjali. Ngati abwenzi anu ali achipembedzo m'miyoyo yawo yatsiku ndi tsiku, mwayi ndiwe kuti apeza njira yokwatirira chipembedzo ndi maukwati awo a LGBTQ - cholinga chake! N’zoona kuti zipembedzo zambiri mwachizoloŵezi sizikhala zochereza anthu okakala, koma zimenezo zikusintha. Okwatirana ambiri omwe amagonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amasankha kukondwerera chikhulupiriro chawo mu miyambo ya Chihindu, miyambo yadziko ndi kufuula kwa chikhulupiriro cha Chiyuda ndi maukwati achikhristu a amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Kumbali ina, ngati okwatiranawo sali achipembedzo, sizingatheke kuti ukwatiwo ukhale wogwirizana ndi chipembedzo chilichonse, koma kuwerenga kapena ndakatulo zomwe zili zofunika kwa okwatirana. Chofunikira ndichakuti musaganize kuti LGBTQ ndi ndani ndipo zipembedzo zimangosemphana.
Kodi ndingalankhule bwanji ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi amene akukwatiwa?
Chiwerengero cha anthu omwe sadziwonetsa kuti ndi amuna kapena akazi chikukwera, ndipo chiŵerengero cha anthu chikuchulukirachulukira Maukwati a LGBTQ kusonyeza munthu mmodzi kapena awiri amene sakhala “akwatibwi” kapena “akwati”. Pewani snafus zilizonse zomwe zingakuchititseni manyazi podziwa kuti munthu wodziwa bwino za jenda angakutsogolereni momwe angayankhire. Nthawi zambiri, matchulidwe oyenerera a amuna kapena akazi omwe si amuna ndi akazi ndi iwo, iwo ndi awo, monga mu "Heather anandiyitanira ku ukwati wawo ndipo sindingathe kudikira kukondwerera nawo!" Ngakhale matanthauzowo ali ochuluka, zikafika kwa anthu okonda jenda, mutha kuwagwiritsa ntchito kutchula munthu m'modzi. Pamene mukulankhula pa khadi, gwiritsani ntchito mutu wakuti “Mx” popanda zizindikiro zopumira, pokhapokha ngati munthuyo wakutsogolerani kugwiritsa ntchito mawu aulemu ena, monga “Dr.” kapena china chake. Pewani kugwiritsa ntchito mawu oti “mkwatibwi” kapena “mkwati,” pokhapokha ngati munthuyo akudzitchula yekha mwanjira imeneyo. Chotero, m’malo monena kuti, “Ndiwe mkwatibwi wokongola chotani nanga! ganizirani zina monga "Mukuwoneka bwino!" popanda kutchula mayina a amuna kapena akazi.
Kodi akwati kapena makolo a mkwatibwi adzawatsata?
Ili ndi funso lachilungamo, popeza mwambo waukwati umalamula kuti akazi aziperekezedwa ndi abambo awo kunsi kwa kanjira pomwe amuna amadikirira akwatibwi awo paguwa. Pamene onse awiri ndi akazi, kodi ndondomekoyi imagwira ntchito bwanji? Nanga bwanji akwati awiri? Izi zilidi kwa banjali. Monga momwe maanja ambiri owongoka amasankha njira zosiyanasiyana zochitira mwambowo ngati njira yolemekezera kholo limodzi kapena onse awiri, maanja okakamira nthawi zambiri amasankha momwe angalowerere potengera ubale wawo. Nthawi zambiri, maukwati okhala ndi akwatibwi awiri nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi mkwatibwi mmodzi yemwe amasankha kuyenda munjira, kuperekezedwa kapena payekha. Maukwati ena aŵiri a mkwatibwi amapangira mpata kuti akwatibwi onse ayende m’kanjira, padera kapena nthawi imodzi. Kwa maukwati okhala ndi akwati awiri, sizodziwika kuti amaperekezedwa munjira, komabe pali mitundu yambiri momwe amasankhira.
Kodi akwatibwi onse adzavala madiresi?
Muli ndi mwayi wa 50-50 wowonetsa ukwati ndi akwatibwi awiri ndikuwona akazi awiri atavala mikanjo yoyera yaukwati. Maukwati ambiri ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amawona akwatibwi onse akusangalala ndi mwambowu, komabe ena samatero. Si zachilendo kuona mkwatibwi mmodzi atavala chovala chaukwati ndipo mkwatibwi wina atavala suti, kapena kuona akwatibwi onse atavala suti kapena akwatibwi onse ovala madiresi omwe sali aukwati. Zothekera za chovala chaukwati ndizosatha, kotero palibe yankho lodula ndi louma ku funso laukwati la amuna kapena akazi okhaokha.
Kodi ndingalankhule bwanji ndi anthu amene angokwatirana kumene?
Nthawi zambiri, mutha kungowatchula dzina lawo latsopano - ngati asankha kukhala ndi dzina lomaliza. Mwachitsanzo, "The Smiths." Ngati simukutsimikiza ngati m'modzi asintha dzina lawo kapena ngati awiriwo asankha dzina loti asalowererepo kuti agawane, ndiye kuti zina zambiri monga "abanja okondwa" ndizoyenera pamakalata kapena khadi lililonse kwa banjali. Ngati mukudziwa kuti okwatirana kumene adzakhala akusunga mayina awo omaliza, ndi koyenera kuwatchula kuti “Mrs. ndi Mayi.” kapena “Bambo. ndi Mr.” ndikuphatikizanso mayina onse awiri.
Nanga bwanji zovina za makolo ndi ana? Zovala zamaluwa? Kudula keke?
Pali mbali zina za maphwando aukwati zomwe anthu ambiri ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amakumbatirana ndi mtima wonse, monga kudula keke, ngati pali keke. Zina, monga zoponya maluwa, ndizosatchuka pakati pa maanja a LGBTQ. Ngakhale mutha kuyembekezera phwando losangalatsa lokhala ndi zodabwitsa zambiri kwa alendo, musayembekezere kuwona zochitika zambiri zachikhalidwe zomwe mumayembekezera kuchokera paukwati wolunjika paukwati wa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha.
Siyani Mumakonda