MUKUDZIWA BWINO: MAFUNSO OKHUDZA TERMINOLOGY YA UKWATI WA LGBTQ
M'nkhaniyi mphunzitsi Kathryn Hamm, wofalitsa komanso wolemba nawo buku losasangalatsa la "Luso Latsopano Lolanda Chikondi: Upangiri Wofunika Kwambiri Kujambula Zithunzi za Ukwati Wachiwerewere ndi Ma Gay." amayankha mafunso ena okhudza Ukwati wa LGBTQ mawu.
Kwa zaka zisanu ndi chimodzi zapitazi, Kathryn Hamm wakhala akugwira ntchito limodzi ndi odziwa zaukwati m'banja kudzera pa intaneti ndi misonkhano. Ndipo ngakhale a kufanana kwaukwati mawonekedwe ndi ukadaulo wopezeka kwa mabizinesi ang'onoang'ono asintha kwambiri m'kupita kwa nthawi, mafunso otchuka kwambiri omwe amalandila kuchokera kwa akatswiri omwe akufuna kukonza zopereka zawo kwa ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha komanso gulu lalikulu la LGBTQ silinatero.
“Kodi ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amakhala ndi 'Mkwatibwi ndi Mkwati' kapena 'Mkwatibwi ndi Mkwatibwi' kapena 'Mkwati ndi Mkwati'? Ndi liwu liti loyenera kugwiritsa ntchito kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha?
M'malo mwake, lakhala limodzi mwamafunso otchuka omwe adalandira kwazaka zambiri. Chilankhulo ndichofunika kwambiri pazamalonda (kulimbikira) komanso m'mawu (kulandira ndi kudzipereka kothandiza). Chimodzi mwa zifukwa zomwe funsoli likupitirirabe ndi chifukwa palibe yankho lofanana, ngakhale pali njira zina zabwino zomwe ziyenera kutsatiridwa.
Chimodzi mwazinthu zazikulu kwambiri za ziweto kwa maanja onse omwe ali muukwati ndi kuchulukira kwa ziyembekezo zosiyana, zomwe zimayendetsedwa ndi amuna kapena akazi pakukonzekera komanso mwambo womwewo. Zowonadi, izi zimaletsa maanja omwe si a LGBTQ momwe zimachepetsera maanja a LGBTQ. M'dziko lathu loyenera, banja lililonse limakhala ndi mwayi wotenga nawo mbali mofanana pamwambo wodzipereka womwe uli watanthauzo komanso wowunikira kwa iwo. Nthawi.
Izi zati, tikukupatsirani yankho lalifupi ili ku funso lanu: mawu olondola omwe mungagwiritse ntchito ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndi omwe amakonda. Ngati simukudziwa chifukwa, m'maso mwanu, akuwoneka kuti akugwera m'chizoloŵezi chomwe mumachiwona ngati 'udindo wa mkwatibwi' ndi 'udindo wa mkwati,' chonde afunseni momwe akufunira kulandidwa ndi/kapena momwe akulozera. ku chochitikacho ndi “maudindo” awo mmenemo. Palibe, nkomwe, nkomwe, nkomwe, osafunsa okwatirana kuti: “Ndani wa inu ali mkwatibwi, ndi ndani wa inu ali mkwati?
Ambiri mwa maanja amadziwika kuti ndi "akwatibwi awiri" kapena "akwati awiri," koma sizili choncho nthawi zonse. Nthawi zina maanja amatha kupanga luso ndi zilankhulo zawo (mwachitsanzo, kugwiritsa ntchito mawu oti 'mkwati' kuti atanthawuze zina zomwe si zachilendo) ndipo ena amatha kusankha kupita ndi “mkwatibwi ndi mkwatibwi” kuti asadziwike. Osangoganiza.
Chonde yesetsani kuti musaganizire mopambanitsa nkhaniyi. Khalani omasuka. Khalani ophatikiza. Khalani olandiridwa. Khalani ndi chidwi. Funsani awiriwa momwe adakumana. Zimene amayembekezera pa tsiku la ukwati wawo. Momwe mungathandizire bwino ndikuwathandiza. Ndipo onetsetsani kuti mwawafunsa ngati ali ndi zina zowonjezera zomwe mwina simunafunse. Pomaliza, onetsetsani kuti mwapereka chilolezo kwa awiriwa kuti akupatseni ndemanga ngati mwalakwitsa chilankhulo kapena njira yomwe mukugwiritsa ntchito. Kulankhulana momasuka ndikumanga maubale ndi chilichonse.
Nthawi zambiri ndinkafunsa kuti, 'dzina la mkwatibwi kapena mkwatibwi wako ndani?' Posachedwapa, ndakhala ndikudzifunsa kuti, 'dzina la mwamuna kapena mkazi wako ndani?' …Ndi zabwino lingaliro?
Ngakhale anthu ena amalankhula za kugwiritsa ntchito 'mnzawo' ngati chilankhulo chosalowerera - chomwe chiri - mawuwa ndi olondola kugwiritsidwa ntchito pokhapokha okwatiranawo atakwatirana. Limafotokoza za ubale wozikidwa paukwati (kusintha kwalamulo). Choncho, ngati mukupereka moni kwa munthu pafoni kapena pamasom'pamaso ndipo simukutsimikiza (ndipo izi zimapita kwa aliyense, mosasamala kanthu za kugonana kapena kugonana), mukhoza kufunsa dzina la 'mnzawo'. Ndi njira yosalowerera m'banja musanalowe m'banja, makamaka ngati mukhala mukulemba mawuwo. Timakonda chilankhulo chokhala ndi masitayelo ochulukirapo, komabe, mungakonde zosankha zina monga "wokondedwa," "wokondedwa" kapena "betrothed;" musaope kugwiritsa ntchito chilankhulo chomwe chikugwirizana ndi kalembedwe kanu.
Chimodzi mwazosavuta kugwiritsa ntchito - polankhula kokha - ndi bwenzi kapena bwenzi. Mawuwa, omwe amalozera bwenzi lomwe ali pachibwenzi amachokera ku Chifalansa ndipo motero amaphatikizapo 'e' kusonyeza mawonekedwe achimuna a liwulo (limatanthauza mwamuna) ndi awiri 'é's kusonyeza mawonekedwe achikazi a mawu (it. zizindikiro za mkazi). Chifukwa onse amatchulidwa chimodzimodzi akagwiritsidwa ntchito polankhula, mutha kutanthauza lingaliro lomwelo (Tikufunsa za munthu amene muli naye pachibwenzi) osaulula kuti mukugwiritsa ntchito nkhani yanji. Chifukwa chake, njira iyi sigwira ntchito polemba, koma ndi njira yabwino kwambiri yoitanira kucheza kopitilira muyeso komanso kuchereza alendo.
“Kodi mungandipatseko malingaliro ena chinenero chomwe chingagwiritsidwe ntchito m'makontrakitala? Mgwirizano umodzi, chilankhulo chophatikiza zonse? Makontrakitala osiyanasiyana, chilankhulo china? Ndiyamba bwanji?"
Bernadette Smith wa Gay Wedding Institute amalimbikitsa odziwa bwino ukwati kuti apange mgwirizano umodzi womwe umakhala wophatikizana ndipo sapanga malingaliro aliwonse ophatikizana ndi mautumiki omwe okwatirana angafune.
Tikuganiza kuti iyi ndiye njira yabwino kwambiri yophatikizira - ndipo, pazomwe zili zoyenera, izi sizongokhudza kukhala LGBTQ-kuphatikizapo. Zosintha zamakontrakitizi zitha kuphatikizanso kuphatikiza amuna owongoka panjira, komanso maanja omwe si azungu. Makampaniwa ali ndi ntchito yambiri yoti athetse "kukondera kwa mkwatibwi" (komwe kumatsamiranso koyera kwambiri). Komabe, titha ...
Zikafika pamigwirizano ndikugwira ntchito ndi maanja aliwonse, timayamikira kwambiri njira yosinthira makonda anu. Izi zitha kutanthauza zinthu zosiyanasiyana m'magulu osiyanasiyana a mautumiki chifukwa mgwirizano womwe wolima maluwa amapanga ndi wosiyana ndi mgwirizano womwe wokonza mapulani angagwiritse ntchito ndi wosiyana ndi mgwirizano. wojambula zithunzi zosowa. M'dziko labwino, tikuwona njira yomwe wodziwa bwino zaukwati adapeza mwayi wokumana ndi banjali ndikumvetsetsa kuti iwo ndi ndani, chilankhulo chomwe amachigwiritsa ntchito komanso zosowa zawo. Kuchokera pamenepo, mgwirizano unkapangidwa kuti ugwirizane ndi iwowo. Zowona, pangafunike chilankhulo chokhazikika pamawu ena, motero zidutswa za "zobiriwira" zitha kupangidwa ndi kuphatikizidwa komanso kuzindikira konsekonse. Kumene akatswiri angapereke china osati template yachidule ndi kupanga, ndi malingaliro a awiriwa, mgwirizano womwe umawawonetsera iwo, zili bwino.
“Mawu oti 'Queer'… amatanthauza chiyani? Nthawi zonse ndimaona kuti mawu amenewa ndi olakwika.”
Kugwiritsa ntchito mawu oti 'queer' kwagwiritsidwa ntchito pafupipafupi zaka zingapo zapitazi. Ndipo, wofunsayo ndi wolondola. 'Queer' idagwiritsidwa ntchito ngati mawu achipongwe pofotokoza anthu a LGBTQ (kapena ngati chipongwe) kwazaka zambiri zapitazi. Koma, mofanana ndi mawu ambiri achipongwe, anthu a m’dera limene lagwiritsiridwa ntchito motsutsa mawuwa ayambiranso kugwiritsa ntchito mawuwa.
Kugwiritsiridwa ntchito kwaposachedwa kwa liwuli ndi komwe kumakhala kowoneka bwino m'kuphweka kwake, ngakhale zitatenga nthawi kuti muzolowere. Kugwiritsa ntchito 'mabanja a LGBT' kukutanthauza kuti mukukamba zambiri kuposa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Mukukamba za maanja omwe angadziwike kuti ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, kapena amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Ena omwe amadziwika kuti ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha angakhalenso obisika ndipo amayamikira luso la LGBTQ pa chikhalidwe koma sangatchulidwe kuti 'ukwati wa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha' ngati ali amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Kuphatikiza apo, palinso mamembala ena amgulu la LGBTQ omwe amadziwika kuti ndi "genderqueer" kapena "genderfluid" kapena "nonbinary;" ndiko kuti, ali ndi chidziwitso chochepa, chachimuna kapena chachikazi chodziwika kuti ndi ndani. Mabanja otsirizawa ndi omwe akuyenera kukumana ndi zovuta zambiri m'makampani chifukwa cha kuchuluka kwa "mkwatibwi" komanso zizolowezi zamtundu wa anthu komanso zaukwati.
Chifukwa chake, chomwe timakonda kugwiritsa ntchito mawu oti 'queer' ndikuti ndi mawu achidule ofotokozera dera lathu lonse. Imazindikira m'mphambano wa malingaliro okhudzana ndi kugonana (ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, amuna okhaokha kapena akazi okhaokha, ndi zina zotere) komanso zidziwitso za jenda (transgender, gender fluid, etc.) ndi zina zonse zomwe dera lathu lingafotokoze ndipo zimatifotokozera zambiri mu liwu la zilembo zisanu m'malo mwa supu ya zilembo zosinthika (mwachitsanzo, LGBTTQQIAAP - amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, osintha umuna, transsexual, queer, kufunsa, intersex, asexual, ally, pansexual).
Ndikofunikira kumvetsetsa izi chifukwa Zakachikwi (omwe akuyimira ambiri omwe ali pachibwenzi masiku ano) amakonda kugwiritsa ntchito mawuwa momasuka komanso pafupipafupi kuposa GenXers kapena Boomers. Sizingakhale zoyenerera kuti okonda ukwati wa cisgender, amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ayambe kunena kuti munthu kapena mwamuna ndi mkazi ngati “wamanyazi,” koma katswiri ameneyu akuyenera kuwonetsanso chilankhulocho kwa banjali ngati umu ndi momwe angafunire kuzindikiridwa. Komanso, kwa ena akatswiri amene amachita zambiri mwaluso, kukankhira malire, komanso ntchito zosinthidwa makonda ndi maanja, ndikofunikira kulingalira zosintha za chilankhulo chanu kuti mugwiritse ntchito "LGBTQ" ndi maumboni a "queer" kapena "genderqueer" ngati muli okonzeka kuwatumikira. . (Ndipo ngati simungathe kunena kuti “queer” mokweza bwino kapena simukudziwabe tanthauzo la jenda, simunakonzekere. Pitirizani kuwerenga ndi kuphunzira mpaka mutamaliza!)
Siyani Mumakonda