INDLELA EYATSHINTSHA NGAYO KWIMINYAKA ESI-8: IINKCUKACHA ZOCWANGCISO LOMTSHATO
Kwiminyaka esibhozo eyadlulayo, iNkundla ePhakamileyo yase-United States (SCOTUS) yagqiba kwelokuba umtshato waseNew York u-Edie Windsor wangaphandle (watshata noThea Spier eCanada ngo-2007) uya kwamkelwa eNew York, apho. umtshato wesini esifanayo yamkelwa ngokusemthethweni ukusukela ngo-2011.
Esi sigqibo sibalulekileyo ngokukhawuleza savula umnyango kwizibini ezininzi zesini esifanayo ezinqwenela ukufuna ukuqatshelwa kobudlelwane bomthetho kodwa zingenako ukwenza oko kumazwe asekhaya, kwaye ekugqibeleni zavula indlela eya kwisigqibo sika-SCOTUS sika-Obergefell ngo-2015, esamkela ukulingana komtshato kwilizwe lonke. Ezo nguqu zomthetho, nangona zithatha indawo ezinkundleni, ekugqibeleni waba nefuthe elibonakalayo kwimarike yomtshato kunye nokukhetha abatshatileyo be-LGBTQ.
Ixesha liyabhabha
Ngaphambi kowama-2013, imitshato ye-LGBTQ yayincinci, inabatshakazi abadala kunye nabakhwenyana, yayingokwesiko ngaphezu kwesiqhelo kuyilo, kwaye izibini ngokwazo zivame ukuhlawula umsitho kunye nombhiyozo. Emva kowama-2005, xa iMassachusetts isemthethweni umtshato kunye nabanye balandela, ezinye izibini zazicwangcisa uhambo olusemthethweni lokuya kwiindawo zokufumana isatifikethi somtshato, kodwa abaninzi babekhetha ukuba nemisitho engavumelekanga ngokusemthethweni kwaye babelana ngezibophelelo zabo esidlangalaleni.
Nangona ndinefayile egcwele i-anecdotes efundisayo kunye ne-snapshots yedatha esecaleni ukucacisa okwenzekayo kwimarike emva komhla, yayiyi-2013 eyanika indawo yokuguqula idatha eyaneleyo yokuchaza ukuba imarike yomtshato wesini esifanayo itshintshile njani. ukwamkelwa ngokusemthethweni. Isiphumo? Ngokusasazwa kokuqondwa ngokulingana komtshato, sabona ngexesha lokwenyani ukuba imitshato ye-LGBTQ yayiqala njani ukungena kwimarike “eqhelekileyo” kwaye, ngokuchaseneyo, indlela imitshato engeyiyo eye-LGBTQ yayiqale njani ukwamkela ukusungulwa kwe-LGBTQ rhoqo, kubandakanya neendlela ezifana 'nepop. phezulu' okanye imitshato emincinci, amaqela omtshato axutyiweyo, iintlobo ngeentlobo zemibala kumatheko omtshato, abantu abazimeleyo njengamagosa, nokunye.
Iinguqu Ezintlanu Ezinkulu Zezibini zesini esinye
#1 Abazali bayanyuka. Kwaye ngaphakathi?
Kunanini na ngaphambili, abantu besini esifanayo bafumana uncedo lokuhlawulela imitshato yabo. Kwiminyaka emihlanu edlulileyo, uninzi olunamandla lwezibini zesini esifanayo (i-79% kwi-2013) ibike ukuba ihlawule yonke okanye ininzi yomtshato ngokwabo, xa kuthelekiswa ne-2017 apho elo nani liye lehla kakhulu kwi-59% yezibini. Olu tshintsho lusixelela ukuba abazali abaninzi (kunye nosapho olwandisiweyo) bathatha inxaxheba kwaye baxhasa abantwana babo Imitshato yeLGBTQ, kwaye, ngenxa yoko, inkcitho yomtshato iyonke iyanda njengoko ngaphezulu Nabathengisi baqeshiwe, iindwendwe ezininzi ziyamenywa, kwaye njengoko izibini ze-LGBTQ ziye zasuka kwizinto ezisebenzayo kwaye zihlala zicwangciswa ngokukhawuleza ukuya kwindlela eqhelekileyo yothethathethwano kunye nenkqubo yocwangciso lomtshato.
Oku kukwathetha ukuba ukuchonga umenzi wesigqibo kwinkqubo yokubhukisha kunokutshintsha ngoku kuba abazali besibini banokuba notyalo-mali oluthe chatha emtshatweni kwaye, ngenxa yoko, ulindelo malunga nokwenza izigqibo.
#2 Ukukhula koluhlu lweendwendwe
Ukukhula koluhlu lweendwendwe kwimitshato yabantu abathandana nabasetyhini kunye nesinibhini sisiphumo esithe ngqo sezibini ezininzi eziphumayo, izibini ezininzi ezikhetha ukutshata, kwaye izibini ezingakumbi ziziva zikhululekile ukubhiyozela kunye nesangqa esibanzi seentsapho, izihlobo, kunye nabantu abasebenza nabo. Ikwangumsebenzi wokukwazi ukutshata ngokusemthethweni kwikhaya lomntu kwaye ube nethuba lokucwangcisa ngokufanelekileyo. Ngapha koko, uPhando luka-2015 lwabatshatileyo banamhlanje luveze ukuba i-79% yabantu besini esifanayo. cwangciso umsitho womtshato kunye nolwamkelo, phantse ukuphinda kabini umphumo (43%) wezibini eziye zaphononongwa ngaphambili (Izibini zesini esinye: Imitshato & neeNgozi, ngo-2013).
- Phambi kowama-2013, ubungakanani boluhlu lweendwendwe oluqhelekileyo lwalungama-65
- Ngo-2014, umyinge wobungakanani wawuyi-80
- Kwi-2015 kunye ne-2016: i-100
- Ngo-2017: i-107 (esele ishiyekile ngasemva kwezibini ezingezizo i-LGBTQ ubungakanani boluhlu lweendwendwe oluyi-127)
Lilonke, ukuba nomsitho kunye nolwamkelo luphuhliso olutsha ngokwentelekiso kuninzi lwabantu abathandanayo besini esinye kwaye luphawula utshintsho olukhulu oluneziphumo ezicacileyo zocwangciso kunye nohlahlo lwabiwo-mali kwaye kube neempembelelo ezithe ngqo ekukhuleni kobukhulu bomndilili woluhlu lweendwendwe.
#3 Ubungakanani bepati yomtshato
Njengoko imitshato yesini esifanayo ikhule ngobungakanani, ngokunjalo, inenkxaso exhasayo. Ngo-2013, i-63% yabantu abathandana besini esifanayo baxela ukuba babenabo naphi na ukusuka ku-0 ukuya kwaba-3 kwitheko labo lomtshato. Ewe, uyiva ngokuchanekileyo loo nto. Kwiminyaka emihlanu edlulileyo, abantu abathandana besini esifanayo babene-3 okanye abantu abambalwa abame kunye nabo njengamangqina. Namhlanje, i-avareji yetheko lomtshato kwizibini zesini esifanayo si-7, xa kuthelekiswa ne-9 kwizibini ezithandanayo.
Iindawo ezihamba phambili, iindwendwe ezininzi kunye namaqela amakhulu omtshato sesinye nje isalathiso sokuba izibini zesini esifanayo zilandela imithetho yesakhiwo yocwangciso lomtshato wesintu xa kuthelekiswa nemisitho eyenzelwe umntu kakhulu, enobungakanani obuthozamileyo kwiminyaka eyadlulayo.
#4 ezidityanisiweyo Wedding Party
Akukho mhlawumbi akukho mzekelo ungcono wesiko lomtshato kunetheko lomtshato ukuze ubonise kungekuphela nje umahluko ekuzimiseleni kwabantu besini esinye ukwaphula isiko, kodwa nomzekelo ochukumisayo wendlela imitshato yama-gay ephembelele imitshato ethe ngqo.
Kwingxelo yethu ye-2016 Trends and Traditions, kuphela i-14% yezibini ze-LGBTQ eziye zachaza ukwahlula amaqela abo omtshato ngokusekelwe kwisini. Oko kukuthi, abafana kwelinye icala kunye gals kwelinye. Abantu abathandana besini esinye bebesoloko bethanda ukudibanisa imitshato yabo, becela abaxhasi babo abasondeleyo ukuba bame nabo, kungakhathaliseki isini kwaye amaxesha amaninzi kuyo nayiphi na impahla abayikhethayo (umz. abafazi abanxibe ibhulukhwe kunye Ugqoke ukulungela). Eyona nto iphawuleka kakhulu kukuqonda ukuba lo mbono uhlaziywayo wetheko lomtshato kubantu besini esifanayo ube nefuthe elimangalisayo njani kukhetho lwabantu besini esahlukileyo ngexesha elifutshane. Amashumi asixhenxe anesine (74%) ezibini ezitshatileyo ezithe tye zahlula amaqela abo omtshato ngokwesini ngo-2015, kodwa inaliti yafudukela kwi-69% ngo-2016 kwaye, kutshanje, yehla ukuya kuma-60% ngo-2017.
'Eyona nto iphawulekayo kukuqonda indlela lo mbono owenziwe ngokutsha wepati yomtshato wabantu besini esifanayo uye waba nefuthe kakhulu ekukhetheni abantu besini esahlukileyo ngexesha elifutshane.'
Njengoko izibini zesini esifanayo zifakwe kwimarike yesiqhelo, kucacile ukuba kukho iindlela ezimbini zempembelelo, eziye zandiswa zizibini zeMillennial, ezikhetha amasiko kunye nokwenza ukhetho lokucwangcisa olulungiselelwe kakhulu kwizinto abazithandayo.
#5 Ubudala besibini
Kwi-2014, uJennifer Senior, ngoko umbhali weNew York Magazine, waphawula ukuba enye yesithathu yabatshati be-LGBTQ abasandul 'ukutshata babengaphezu kweminyaka engama-50. Ingxelo yethu esandul 'ukutshata ibonise ukuba umyinge weminyaka yabantu abatshatileyo ababetshatile kwi-2015 kunye ne-2016 yayiyi-35. kunye nokwahluka kweminyaka yobudala phakathi kwabakhwenyana abathandana nabasetyhini kunye nabatshakazi abathandanayo). Kwi-2017, ubudala behla ukuya kwi-34. Namhlanje, izibini ze-LGBTQ zisakhonkxa kancinci kunezibini ezingezona i-LGBTQ (umyinge weminyaka yabantu abathandana besini esingafaniyo ngo-2017 yayingu-32), kodwa i-gap eyanciphayo ayibonakalisi nje kuphela ukuba izibini zesini esahlukileyo sifumana njani. batshata kwiminyaka embalwa kamva ebomini, kodwa nendlela abantu abathandana ngayo besini esinye siba bancinci.
Lo ngomnye umzekelo ongaphezulu wendlela indlela yokuthethana kunye nesicwangciso somtshato kubantu abathandana besini esinye edibanisa indlela yobudlelwane phakathi kwabantu abathandana besini esahlukileyo: qala ngokuthandana, (mhlawumbi ukuhlalisana), ukuganana, nokutshata. Ngokwamkelwa okuvulelekileyo ngakumbi kwabantu be-LGBTQ kunye nezibini, ukuziqhelanisa nomntu ngokwesondo akuseyonto kumdla womntu kunye nokufikelela kwiinkonzo zokucwangcisa umtshato kunye nomtshato.
Shiya iMpendulo