Indaba yothando kaRyan no-Eric
URyan: Sahlangana nge-Scruff (yize sivame ukutshela abantu esihlangane nabo ku-inthanethi lol) futhi ngemva kokuxoxa izinsuku ezimbalwa sanquma ukuhlangana mathupha ngomhlaka-4/14/18. Sobabili sasigula ubusika futhi sizama ukungena, ngakho-ke sasizohamba ngohlelo lwesibhakabhaka saseMinneapolis. Yiqiniso, sikhohlwe ukuthi sihlala eMinnesota futhi isiphepho esibi kakhulu sasebusika safika ngosuku olufanayo esasihlelelwe ukuhlangana ngalo. Kodwa, u-Eric wezwa ukuthi imigwaqo emikhulu cishe yayilungile, futhi ngokumelene nezincomo zomuntu ahlala naye uRyan, saqhubeka nohambo olude esiphephweni esishisayo silibangise edolobheni laseMinneapolis.
Sasihamba futhi sihamba, sixoxa ngempilo, i-pasta yethu, izinto esizithandayo emculweni nezinhlelo, ukwabelana ngokuhleka okubi njengoba abantu bewa eqhweni elikhithika ngaphandle… usuku lwalulula sengathi sase siyazana. Ngemuva kwamahora angu-3+ kubonakale kuhlakaniphile ukuzama ukushayela ekhaya, futhi ngokuqabula okuphuphile egalaji lokupaka, ngangazi ukuthi ngizoshada nale ndoda emangalisayo asanda kuhlangana nayo.
Ukuvezwa kokuqala
URyan: Ngifike kuqala ngabona u-Eric ehla kwikheshi eya endaweni yokwamukela izivakashi ngaphandle kweThagethi. U-Eric wayebukeka emuhle mathupha…futhi enethezekile ekugqokeni kwakhe okusebenzayo. Ngabona ukuthi lo mfana wayezimisele uma eqonde ukuthi ufuna ukushaywa umoya, futhi ngazisola ngengubo enhle (efudumele kakhulu) anquma ukuyigqoka. U-Eric kwakulula ukukhuluma naye futhi amehlo akhe ayebonisa umusa wakhe.
U-Eric: Ukumomotheka kukaRyan nokungakhululeki kwakhe yikhona u-Eric akubona ngaso leso sikhathi.
Qala ukuphola
URyan: Saphinde sahlangana ngakusasa (emva kokukhipha iqhwa ngaphansi kwama-intshi angu-20+) futhi ngokushesha sawela esimisweni sokuhlangana ndawonye izinsuku ezimbalwa ngesonto, nokunye okwengeziwe, nokunye okwengeziwe. Bekuzwakala kungokwemvelo, futhi bengifuna ukuba no-Eric ngangokunokwenzeka ngenkathi ngisanikeza u-Eric isikhala wayedinga.
Ubunzima bokubona njengombhangqwana ongqingili
URyan: Ngazisa u-Eric kubangane bami ngokushesha kanye nabazali bami ngemva kwezinyanga ezimbalwa bevakashile. Kwamthatha u-Eric isikhashana, futhi kwaba khona ukungabaza, kodwa kwabaningi esibathandayo, kwakusobala ukuthi sasikhathalelana kangakanani nokuthi sijabule kangakanani.
Ama-namnameki
URyan: Ngibiza u-Eric Babe kakhulu…kodwa sinomntwana wethu u-Lola endlini, sibizana nangokuthi uBaba (Eric) kanye noPapa (Ryan).
Iziphakamiso
URyan: Kuyaxaka, kodwa asiphikisani ngempela. Into esiphikisana ngayo buthule nje ukuthi ubani ozovuka phakathi kwamabili akhiphe umdlwane uma ekhala. Ukuzalwa ngaphandle kwalokho sixoxa ngezinto esizizwayo futhi ezihambisana nokugeleza.
Isiphakamiso
URyan: Ngemva kweminyaka engu-2, sihlala nomdlwane wethu u-Lola, futhi sesivele sikhuluma ngohambo lwethu lokuzala, sanquma ukuthi sekuyisikhathi sokushada ngenye intambama ngaphandle kwevulandi yethu. Kwakungeyona into ekhazimulayo, phansi ngedolo elilodwa nge ring esandleni uhlobo lomzuzwana, kodwa yayiphelele futhi ijabulisa ngokufanayo.
Izinhlelo zomshado namalungiselelo
Ryan: Bekufanele sishade ngomhlaka-12/19/2020 kodwa okudabukisayo ngenxa ye-covid-19 kudingeke ukuthi usuku luhlehliselwe ku-4/17/2021. Kuzoba ubusuku obuncane, obusondelene endaweni yokudlela, epulazini ukuya etafuleni eNingizimu Minneapolis.
Amalungiselelo.
Ryan: Sanquma ngendawo (i-Copper Hen) nomculi (uJoshua Schmidt) kuqala, futhi saqala ukusebenza kwenye Abathengisi kusukela lapho, ukuxoxisana abathwebuli bezithombe, abathwebuli bevidiyo, abathwebula izithombe zomshado, bezama ama-tuxedo, njll. Kwakusobala ukuthi sidinga uchwepheshe ukuze asisize ngokwenza umbono wethu, ngakho saqasha umxhumanisi womshado omangalisayo (Imicimbi kaWhitney James).
Ikhuluma nabathengisi.
Siqaphele zisuka nje ukuthi abathengisi abathile abasebenzisi ulimi lwe-LGBTQIA+ lwakudala, ngakho-ke uma iwebhusayithi inolimi 'loMlobokazi noMyeni kuphela, siphumelele ngokushesha. Bekufanele sibize abathengisi abambalwa kulokhu uma kukhulunywa ngokusayina izinkontileka noma amagama yama-imeyili/imibuzo, kodwa ngaphandle kwalokho, bonke abathengisi esihlangane nabo baye bajabula futhi basekela!
Abathengisi bomshado wethu
Iwebhusayithi ithi WithJoy.com, umthwebuli wezithombe @jolsonweddings, videographer @eyetography_film_and_foto, umculi @joshuajschmidt, indawo @thecopperhen, umxhumanisi @whitneyjamesevents, isazi sezimbali kuseyi-TBD, ama-tuxedo aseyi-TBD
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