Indaba Yesiphakamiso Sangempela sika-Olivia no-Ashley
SIHLANGANE KANJANI
ASH: Ngisanda kubuya ohambweni lwami lwesithupha lwaphesheya, ngiphukile, ngihlala endaweni ethile phezulu ezitebhisini zomngane, lol. Ngolunye usuku, ngangicashe emhlabeni, ngifunda, futhi u-Olivia weza efulethini lalo mngane (intombi yakhe yakudala) (lapho ayehlale khona eminyakeni embalwa edlule), ezodlala isiginci futhi acule. Wenyuka ngezitebhisi, sethulwa, futhi oh nkulunkulukazi wami, lawo mehlo acwazimulayo, lokho kumamatheka okukhanyayo, ubuhle bakhe obukhazimulayo. Ngangazi ukuthi ngisenkingeni!
LIV: Bengizama isimo esisha “sobungani” nozakwethu wokuqala obalulekile, owasho ukuthi usanda kuthola umuntu ahlala naye omusha (efulethini ebesihlala sabelane ngalo) wathi ucabanga ukuthi lo engihlala naye omusha ngizomthola. "Impela siyezwana." (Wayengazi ukuthi sizozwana kanjani, impela…) Ngahlangana no-Ash ngenkathi ngikhuphuka izitebhisi zefulethi engangihlala kulo ne-ex yami. Okwakhelwe ezindongeni zalesi sitezi lezi zikhala ezincane "ze-nook" futhi u-Ash kwenzekile "ecashe emhlabeni" ngombhede wakhe ongawele kanye nezincwadi zakhe kwesinye sazo. Sakhiya amehlo, futhi njengoba u-Ash ekubeka, sasazi ukuthi kuzoba nenkinga… 😉
INDLELA ABABUZA NGAYO
I-ASH: Hhayi-ke. Ngonyaka wethu wokuqala sindawonye, uLiv wayazi ukuthi wayekulokhu ukuphila kwakhe konke. Wathenga a ring kolunye uhlobo lukamama empilweni yami futhi wabuza ukuthi ngizomshada yini. Ngamtshela ukuthi yebo, kodwa I am SO not ready, ake ngikubuze ngelinye ilanga uma NGINGENA. Eminyakeni engu-4 kamuva, ngangikhona! Ngihlelele usuku oluhle kakhulu lwe-adventure e-Marin, enemvelo kanye nezindawo ezithandekayo ezivela ku-Atlas Obscura, olwaphetha ngokusabalala kweTarot yothando enama rose petals, amakhandlela, nendandatho phakathi. Noma kunjalo, umongo owengeziwe, futhi ngizozama ukuwenza ube mfushane. Ngonyaka owandulela lesi siphakamiso sesibili, sase sihlukene izinyanga ezingu-6-8. Ngangizabalaze nenkinga yokuphuza, (ukuhlukumezeka kwasebuntwaneni kwangifica), futhi ngafaka uLiv esihogweni esithile. Okuxakayo ukuthi ukuhlukana kwafika lapho ngizibophezele ekuhluzekeni, ngakho-ke enhliziyweni yami, ngasuka ngaya e-SE Asia ukuze ngibe endaweni ethile yobuBuddha futhi ngijulise indlela yami yokululama ngokuzindla nokuzihambela ngiyedwa.
Ngagcina ngiseNepal, futhi ngemva kosuku ngifikile, kwaba nokuzamazama komhlaba okuyinhlekelele. Leyo enye indaba ngokwayo, kodwa ngiyaqiniseka ukuthi, ngibuyele ekhaya ngenyanga elandelayo ngiphule izinyanga zami ezingu-9 zokuhluzeka, ngihambe ngaphambi kokuba ngizwe ukuthi ngenze isevisi eyanele ngemuva kwemiphumela, kanye nokuthintwa kwe-PTSD. Ngokujabulisayo, mina no-Liv saphinde saxhuma (emkhosini, lapho sasingazi ukuthi omunye wayekhona kwaze kwaba yilapho sishayisana), futhi saphinde savuselela ubuhlobo bethu phakathi nezinyanga ezimbalwa. Ngakho-ke, ngesikhathi sesiphakamiso sami esiqotho, inhliziyo yami yayikuso, kodwa ngangisacindezelekile ngokomzwelo futhi nginenkinga yokuxhumana nempilo yami.
Sahlala ndawonye, kodwa saba nezikhathi ezinzima. Dlulisela phambili ku-2018. Ngabuyela e-Nepal ngonyaka wesithathu wokuzamazama komhlaba, futhi ekugcineni ngathola ukuvalwa engangikudinga. Ngenkathi ngingedwa futhi amasonto ambalwa, engangicabanga ngakho kwakuwuthando lwami futhi ngifuna ukuzibophezela ngokugcwele empilweni yethu ndawonye, 6nally. Wangijoyina, futhi ekugibeleni kwethu amabhasi okwalandela sinqamula eNepal naseNdiya, sakhuluma ngokukwenza kwenzeke. Ezinsukwini zethu ezimbalwa ezedlule lapho, sathola ama-tattoos nezindandatho zedayimane ezifanelana nezabanye (azange plan lokho), futhi wabuyela ekhaya, sithandana, sivutha, futhi 6ekugcineni sihlela umshado wethu wamaphupho! <3
LIV: Ngangazi ukuthi ngimthanda kwasekuqaleni. Iminyaka engu-6 phakathi, izingxoxo eziningi, kanye neziphakamiso ezi-3 kamuva, ingoduso yami eseyingoduso manje yangimangaza lapho ngifika e-Kathmandu (ukuzohlangana nayo ngohambo oluthile) nginesithakazelo esiqotho sokushiya lolu hambo ngifake izindandatho. iminwe yethu & nesinqumo esibambekayo esenziwe. Lolu hambo lusidlulisele eNepal nasengxenyeni enkulu yeNyakatho ye-India, futhi kuyo yonke leyo nyanga (cishe) sakhuluma kakhulu ngalokho esasikwenza ezimpilweni zethu, ebuhlotsheni bethu, nokuthi sasifuna ukuyaphi/lokho esasifuna ukukwenza ngokulandelayo.
Ngesikhathi sethu e-Taj Mahal, ngolunye usuku oluhle ekuseni ekuphumeni kwelanga - ngisethe i-iPhone yami phansi, ngamisa isibali sikhathi sibe imizuzwana eyi-10, ngagijima ngibuyela ku-Ash futhi ngephutha ngathwebula lokho okuzohlala kungenye yezintandokazi zethu. izithombe ndawonye (zake zaba khona) futhi leso ngokushesha saba isithombe esasivame ukumemezela umshado wethu uma sesibuyele ekhaya e-States. Ekupheleni kohambo lwethu, emuva lapho siqale khona, e-Kathmandu, i-Ash yathola isitolo sedayimane EYODWA (ezweni?!) futhi sahamba nezindandatho zokuthembisana ezimangalisayo, eziyingqayizivele, ezilungele-kithi, ezinye kanye-nje -izinkumbulo zesikhathi eside, nendaba yomshado ethatha iminyaka + ngisho nasemhlabeni wonke!
Sabalalisa Uthando! Siza Umphakathi we-LGTBQ+!
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