IMITHETHO YOMSHADO WENDODA OFUNA UYAZI
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ushada noma cha eduze nasekhaya, ukuqonda izimiso zokuziphatha zomshado kungaba yinto ekhohlisayo. Ubani okhokhela ini? Zingaki izihambeli okufanele uzimeme? Imibuzo yokuhlonipha ngezinye izikhathi ayipheli, futhi uma ungeza indawo ekude enamasiko nemikhuba yamasiko okungenzeka ihluke, imithetho ingashintsha ngokuphelele. Kodwa indlela yokuziphatha yomshado wendawo akudingekile ukuba idide - okudingekayo nje ukucwaninga okwengeziwe nokuhlela ngaphambi kokuthi uhambe ngosuku olukhulu.
Thola ukuthi ubani okhokhela ini
“Okokuqala, imibhangqwana kufanele ikhumbule izivakashi zayo maqondana nezindleko. Ngaphandle uma zonke izivakashi zabo zicebile (okuyinto engavamile), awufuni ukukhetha a indawo lokho kuyabiza ukufika futhi kuyabiza ukuhlala kukho,” kusho uJamie Chang, umshado oqokwayo Planner kanye nomklami eLos Altos. “Kuyimikhuba engemihle yomshado wendawo ukucela izihambeli ukuthi zibize izinkulungwane zamaRandi ukuze zize emshadweni wazo.”
Gcina uhlu lwezivakashi lufushane
Ayikho imithetho eqinile futhi esheshayo yezimiso zomshado wendawo oya kuyo uma kuziwa ekudaleni uhlu lwakho lwezivakashi. Kodwa emishadweni eminingi yendawo, kungcono ukucabanga okuncane. Mema abantu obathandayo nobafunayo empilweni yakho. UChang usikisela ukubuza lo mbuzo olandelayo: “Uma umshado wakho ubungenzeka izolo futhi ungammemanga lo muntu, ubungaphatheka kabi? Uhlu lwakho lwezivakashi kufanele luhlanganise abantu impendulo yalo mbuzo ithi 'yebo,'” kusho u-Chang.
Nikeza izihambeli isikhathi esanele sokuhlela
Thumela amakhadi akho okulondoloza usuku cishe izinyanga eziyisishiyagalombili kuya kwezingu-10 ngaphambi komshado, futhi uthumele izimemo okungenani kusasele izinyanga ezintathu, unikeze izivakashi isikhathi esiningi se-RSVP.
Yenza izihambeli zakho zizizwe zamukelekile
Yamukela izivakashi zakho kusukela lapho uya khona. Mhlawumbe wenze iphathi ngosuku lokufika. izikhwama ezamukelekayo ezigcwele isikrini selanga, ama-flip flops noma ezinye izinto ezibalulekile zendawo yesimo sezulu esishisayo ziwukuthinta futhi. "Yenza kube lula ngabo ukuthi bakujabulele," kusho uSabrina Cadini, umsunguli nomqondisi wokudala we-San Diego-based La Dolce Idea, inkampani ehlinzeka ngezinsizakalo zokuhlela umshado. “Banikeze iziyalezo eziqondile ngohlelo lohambo, izimo zezulu, iziphakamiso zezingubo, futhi ubagcine benolwazi futhi bexhumene ngempelasonto yomshado.”
Uma ufuna isikhathi uwedwa ngemva komkhosi
“Ayikho ngempela indlela yokusho lokhu,” kusho uChang. "Indlela engcono kakhulu yokudlulisa leli phuzu ukudala umgoqo womzimba." Uma nifuna isikhathi ndawonye njengombhangqwana ngemva kwedili, u-Chang uncoma ukuthi nihlale ndawana thize. Gcoba ekamelweni lakho lehhotela. Faka uphawu oluthi “ungaphazamisi”. Bhuka i-suite yomshado ehhotela elihlukile. Izivakashi zakho zizothola umlayezo.
Funda amasiko endawo namasiko
“Ungafaki imicikilisho noma amasiko noma ezinye izici ezingase zicasule isiko lezwe lapho ushada khona,” kusho uCadini.
Ngokwesibonelo, ukukopisha yakho Abathengisi kwamanye amazwe kungacasula. Umngane kaCadini washada nendoda yaseJapane ezweni lakubo, futhi wamema abangani bakhe baseMelika emshadweni. “Ngesikhathi sedili lomshado, izihambeli zazithipha abadayisi njengophawu lokubonga ngomsebenzi owenziwe kahle. Kwavela ukuthi, ukunikeza iseluleko eJapane kuthathwa njengokudelela. Izihambeli zakhe kusobala ukuthi zazingazi kodwa abadayisi bacasuka bakhala ngokaputeni wedili nowavele wayokhononda kumakoti nomkhwenyana,” kusho uCadini.
Ukuze ugweme noma yikuphi ukungakhulumisani kahle ngokwesiko nokugcina imikhuba emihle yomshado wendawo oya kuyo, u-Cadini uphakamisa ukubuza umhleli womshado wendawo mayelana namasiko athile wendawo yakho. Uma uthola ukuthi ukunikeza ithiphu kuthathwa njengokwedelela, dlulisela lolo lwazi kubavakashi bakho.
Nikeza izihambeli zakho ulwazi olubalulekile
Kukhona izinto eziningi kanye nemininingwane ehilelekile ekuhambeleni umshado wendawo, ngakho qiniseka ukuthi unikeza izivakashi zakho ulwazi oluningi kusenesikhathi ngangokunokwenzeka. Eyakho iwebhusayithi yomshado iyindawo ekahle yokwabelana ngayo yonke imininingwane ebalulekile—kusukela ohlelweni lwangempelasonto kuya kolwazi lwezokuthutha, imininingwane yokuxhumana eziphuthumayo, nokunye okuningi.
Nikeza amathuba okuhlangana
Uma omunye wabavakashi bakho angabazi abanye emshadweni, cabanga ukumvumela ukuthi alethe ukuhlanganisa nokukodwa. Njengoba imishado eminingi yendawo ingaba yizindaba zesonto lonke, nikeza izivakashi zakho ithuba lokuzihlanganisa nephathi yokwamukela neminye imisebenzi ehleliwe, njengokubona indawo, ezemidlalo, uhambo lwesikebhe, noma olunye uhambo.
“Ufuna ukwenza isiqiniseko sokuthi wonke umuntu uba nesikhathi esimnandi futhi unomuntu azozihlalela naye,” kusho uChang.
Okwezivakashi
Ungamemi abanye ngaphandle kwemvume
Kubi imikhuba yomshado wendawo oya kuyo ukuza nomngane uma ungakamenywanga nge-plus-one. Uma uzobe undiza wedwa ngesikhathi somshado, kuzodingeka wamukele ukuthi uzobe uwedwa ngaso sonke isikhathi. Akulungile ukuthi umeme umngane wakho noma omunye umuntu obalulekile kuwe—wengeza ezindlekweni eziphelele zabashadikazi.
Ungasiboni isidingo sokusebenzisa imali ngokweqile ngesipho
Njengoba cishe usebenzise isamba esihle soshintsho ukuya emshadweni, ungathengela umbhangqwana isipho esinenani eliphansi. Kodwa kukuwe ngokuphelele. Hamba phezulu kusibhalisi noma yehla. Njengoba ukuthutha izipho endizeni kungaba buhlungu, thumela isipho sakho kubabhangqwana ngaphambi komshado.
shiya impendulo