UNGABA KANJANI ISIVAKASHI ESIPHELELE EMSHADWENI WE-LGBTQ
Uma uhlela ukuqhubeka real Umshado we-LGBTQ, futhi unokungabaza mayelana namagama noma imithetho kulolu hlobo lwemicimbi, lesi sihloko singakusiza ukuba ube yisivakashi esiphelele emshadweni wangempela we-LGBTQ.
1. UNGABHEKI EMSHADWENI NJENGEMCIMBINI
Akuwona neze umcimbi, umcimbi wokuzibophezela noma umgubho, umshado. Futhi ngisakulokho, ungabhekiseli kunoma yimuphi umshado njengephathi; kungaba iqonde noma LGBT+. Kunganikeza abantu umbono wokuthi awuwuthathi umshado wabo kanye/noma ubudlelwano njengento engathi sína njengoba ungase uthathe abanye.
Abashadikazi ngokungangabazeki batshale umzamo omkhulu, isikhathi kanye nezinsiza osukwini lwabo olukhulu. Qaphela ukuthi ungawamosheli ngokubiza enye into ngaphandle kwalokhu eyikho.
2. YIMA UCABANGA NGAPHAMBI KOKUSEBENZISA IMIGOMO YOBULILI
Ungase uwazi noma awukwazi amagama afanele ongawasebenzisa mayelana noma emshadweni we-LGBT+; ukungazi, ukungajwayelekile kanye nokuzizwa ungakhululekile konke kungasho ukuthi awazi ukuthi ungasho kanjani amagama engxoxweni evamile.
Kodwa awukwazi ukuvele ukhethe ukukhipha amagama endabuko, ubulili angaqondile kumbhangqwana. Kungakhombisa ukuthi ubungenandaba nabo ngokwanele ukuze ufunde ukuthi yiziphi izabizwana nolimi ezibafanele.
3. FUNDA AMAGAMA AMAGAMA ESIFANELE
Wonke umbhangqwana, kungaba LGBT+ noma oqondile, unezintandokazi zawo.
Ukujwayelana ngokuyinhloko nabashadikazi abaqondile esikhathini esidlule kusho ukuthi amagama nolimi okubhekiselwa kubo kuzo kuzenzakalele kuwe. Kodwa-ke, kufanele ucwaninge mayelana nezimo ezihlukene ezingezona ubulili ngaphambi kokuhambela umshado we-LGBT+. Lokhu kukhombisa ukuthi uyabahlonipha abashadikazi.
Ukulalela ngokucophelela umbhangqwana futhi unamathele kumagama afanayo kuwumqondo omuhle.
Ukuze uthole ireferensi, ngokuvamile kulula kakhulu ukusebenzisa amagama okuqala ezithandani noma ukubhekisela kuwo njengombhangqwana, izithandwa, wena/laba/labo ababili noma laba ababili.
Kodwa uma unobudlelwano obuhle nabo (engethemba ukuthi unabo uma umenywe emshadweni wabo) kanti ungazi, BUZA kubo ukuthi bakhetha ziphi izabizwana (yena, yena, bona) ).
4. UNGATHI “NINA BANTU NJENGENYE ABANYE IBHABHANA”
Ungase uzwe uzwela olwengeziwe kulokho imibhangqwana ye-LGBT+ edlula kukho, kodwa imishado akusona isikhathi esifanele sokwabelana yisambulo sakho.
Ukudlulisela imizwa yakho ekunconyweni kwangempela njengokuthi, "Nginijabulela kakhulu bafana" kwamukelekile kakhulu futhi kufanelekile. Akudingekile ukuba wenze kube sobala ukuthi wake wacabanga ukuthi ahlukile kunomunye umuntu.
5. ZILUNGISELELA UKUBONA AMASIKO OMTSHATO ONGAWENA ENDABUKO
Kungenzeka ukuthi uhlangabezane namasiko obulili esikhathini esidlule. Isibonelo, kungenzeka ukuthi uke wambona uyise womlobokazi emhambisa phansi ephaseji ngesikhathi sodwendwe.
Emshadweni we-LGBT+ ungase ubone enye yawo noma ungawuboni, kuye ngokukhetha kombhangqwana - zama ukugcina ingqondo evulekile.
Uma unenhlanhla, ungase ubone isilwane esifuywayo esithandekayo njenge ring umthwali. Yebo, imishado ye-LGBT+ mihle ngaleyo ndlela, inezengezo ezifana nemishado yezilwane ezifuywayo kanye nezimbali ze-DIY njll.
6. UNGALISEBENZISI IKHADI LE-RSVP UKUZE Uveze Imibono Yakho
Ungahlala ukhetha ukungayi emshadweni we-LGBT+ uma ungakhululekile.
Abashadikazi bakumeme ukuba ube yingxenye yosuku lwabo ngoba bekholelwa ukuthi uyaweseka umshado wabo. Uma ungafuni ukuhamba, ungasenqaba ngesizotha isimemo. Nokho, ungayisebenzisi i-RSVP yakho ukuze usho izizathu zakho zokuthi kungani ungezi.
7. UNGAPHUMZI UMSHADO NOMA ULETHE ONGAMENYWAYO
Ungase ube nelukuluku lokwazi ngemishado ye-LGBT+ futhi lokho kulungile.
Kodwa ngokuqinisekile akulungile ukuphahlazeka umshado ongamenywanga kuwo. Futhi futhi, ungezi nomuntu ogama lakhe lingashiwongo kusimemo esithunyelwe kuwe.
Hlonipha ukukhetha kombhangqwana.
8. THENGA AMAKHADI NEZIPHO EZINGAPHAKATHI
Ngeke uvele ucabange ukuthi wonke umshado unomkhwenyana nomakoti. Bhekisisa isimemo somshado futhi uzoqaphela amagama akhethwa yizithandani.
Ungasesha ku-inthanethi izipho ezenziwe ngokwezifiso noma okungcono, uzenzele ezakho! Kunezinsiza eziningi ezikhuluma kabanzi mayelana nezipho zomshado ze-LGBTIQ imibono.
9. HLONIPHA IMIBALA EZIKHETHELE IMIBHANGI NOMA ITHEMU
Imishado ye-LGBT+ ingagcwala umbala nokudala. Kungaba umshado ongaxhunywanga noma umshado onetimu yakudala, kodwa sicela unamathele ekukhetheni kwababungazi bakho. Kumelwe ukuba umbhangqwana uthathe isinqumo ngendikimba ekhuluma ngawo nendaba yawo. Hlakanipha futhi uhloniphe itimu yomshado wabo. Akudingekile ukuthi ngaso sonke isikhathi uthenge ingubo entsha, ucabange ngokuboleka noma ukuqasha ingubo noma okungenani uzame ukuphinda okuthile okufana nombala noma itimu eceliwe.
10. HLONIPHA UBUMFIHLO BOMBHADINI
Umbhangqwana ngokwemvelo uzobe ubhekene nenani elilinganayo lokucindezeleka ngosuku lwabo olukhulu; awufuni ukwengeza kukho. Ukukhathazeka kwakho nokuvakasha kwakho kuyaqondakala, kodwa akuyona into ehamba phambili usuku lomshado. Ungabuza umbhangqwana imibuzo yakho kamuva lapho usesimweni sengqondo esikhululekile.
11. UNGABEBANI IZITHOMBE ZABASHADINI BENGABENZI
Imibhangqwana eminingi ingase ingakhululeki ukwabelana nayo Izithombe ezinkundleni zokuxhumana. Kungcono ukubuza ngaphambi kokwabelana ngezithombe zabo ku-inthanethi.
12. UNGASHO IZINTO EZIFANA NATHI: “ANGIKULINDELE UKWENZE NGEMPELA.”
Ezinye izifundazwe namazwe angase angawuboni ngokomthetho umshado, kodwa usengokoqobo kakhulu kumbhangqwana. Qonda ukuthi, kubo, lo mshado ungase ube ngokoqobo njengoba uyoke uthole.
Yiba nozwela futhi usekele izinhloso zabo kanye nobudlelwano babo nganoma iyiphi indlela.
13. YENZA ABABANDANE UKUTHI UYAWAKHONZA FUTHI UYIHLONIPHELE UKUTHI AYIKHONA.
Imibhangqwana ye-LGBT+ idlule kokuningi esikhathini esidlule futhi ezimweni eziningi, isalwela ukulingana nanamuhla. Ungase wazi noma ungazi, kodwa njengomngane noma ilungu lomndeni, udinga ukubasekela, noma kunjalo. Qiniseka ukuthi ukhombisa ukuthi uyabakhathalela futhi uyabahlonipha ngesibindi sabo.
14. UMA UNGENALO LOKUHLE ONGAKUSHO
Kulungile ukuba nemibono yakho, kodwa akulungile ukuyisho ngokuzwakalayo uma kulimaza omunye. Gcina imibono nemibono yakho kuwena ngaphandle uma uqinisekile ukuthi ngeke kumlimaze omunye umuntu.
15. UNGADAKI KAKHULU
Kulula kakhulu ukuhamba nokugeleza okubandakanyayo nokujabulisayo komshado we-LGBT+ futhi wehle kakhulu, ngokushesha okukhulu. Uzozisola ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Kodwa uma wenza isiqiniseko sokuthi uyaxolisa kwabashadile.
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