Umhleli Womshado U-Jove Meyer Uhlanganyela Indlela Yokudala Umshado Owenziwe Ngokwakho Kakhulu

Jove Meyer, hamba Planner kubabhangqwana be-LGBTQ+, kuveza amathiphu ochwepheshe omshado wohlobo olulodwa ongowakho ngempela.

by Ifindo

Sahlala phansi nomhleli wemishado u-Jove Meyer, e-Brooklyn, umnikazi ozinze eNew York kanye nomqondisi wokudala we Imicimbi kaJove Meyer- kanye nobuchopho ngemuva Umbhangqwana we-Knot Dream Wedding u-Elena Della Donne no-Amanda Clifton's inkwindla yango-2017—ukukhuluma ngolwazi lwakhe njengomenzi wokunambitha embonini yothando. Kuphephile ukusho ukuthi wazi into noma ezimbili mayelana nokuhlela imishado ye-LGBTQ+ ekhuluma ngokuqondile nabashadikazi futhi yenze imibono yabo ephakeme kakhulu iphile. Kusukela ekujikijeleni isiko kuya ekudaleni kwakho okukhethekile, nansi indlela yokwenza usuku lwakho lomshado lube ngolwakho ngempela.

Kulula ngababhangqwana ukuba bangene emcabangweni wokuthi yini okufanele bayenze ngosuku lwabo lomshado. Isiphi iseluleko onaso kulabo abanethemba lokuzibheka ngamasiko?

“Ayikho imithetho yangempela uma kuziwa emishadweni ye-LGBTQ+, ngakho-ke ngikhuthaza yonke imibhangqwana ukuthi isungule eyabo. Uma sekushiwo, thatha isinyathelo emuva futhi uzibuze ukuthi kungani ubamba iqhaza esikweni elithile. Ingabe linencazelo yomuntu siqu kuwe nesoka lakho, noma ingabe ukwenza ngoba nje kulindelekile? Umshado wakho akufanele ugcwale amasiko amadala noma izikhathi ezingasho lutho—yonke imininingwane kufanele izizwe iyiqiniso kuwe.”

Yiziphi ezinye zezindlela ezihlukile izithandani ze-LGBTQ+ ezingafaka isitembu somuntu siqu emcimbini wazo?

“Imishado ye-LGBTQ+ isemisha kangangoba imibhangqwana ingenza noma yini efuna ukugubha umshado wayo. Dlala lapho umcimbi uqhubeka khona indawo, kwenzeka kanjani nokuthi obani abahilelekile. Bamba umcimbi endingilizini enamaphasishi amane, noma umeme izivakashi emcimbini wokuma ngaphandle kwezihlalo kanye nezihlalo.”

Yisiphi isibonelo sendlela osize ngayo umbhangqwana ukuthi ugobe imithetho?

“Ngisanda kusebenza nabakhwenyana ababili abajike udwendwe lwabo ekhanda ngokuqoqa izihambeli endaweni yomcimbi ngaphambi kokuqala komcimbi. Kunokuba wehle ubheke kubo, lo mbhangqwana wamema abangani nomndeni ukuba behle ngendlela ebheke e-altare, bafike balinde khona nomphathi wabo.”

Uma ucwaninga ochwepheshe abangaba khona emshadweni, iyiphi indlela elula yokunquma ukuthi umthengisi noma indawo ivumelana ne-LGBTQ+? 

“Umhleli wakho kufanele akwazi ukugunyaza amanye amabhizinisi acabanga ngokulingana. Ungaphinda ubheke iwebhusayithi yomthengisi ukuze ubone ukuthi ikhona yini Izithombe noma ulwazi lubonisa ukwesekwa kwabashadile be-LGBTQ+. Uma uwuthanda umsebenzi wabo kodwa wehluleka ukubona ukwesekwa okusobala kwe ukulingana emshadweni ku-bio yabo eku-inthanethi noma kugalari, thumela i-imeyili ubuza ngamasevisi abo.”

Funda kabanzi mayelana nokuthola ochwepheshe be-LGBTQ-friendly lapha.