7 Izifundo Zothando Zomcimbi we-LGBTQ+

Siyakuthanda lokhu kufunda okucabangelayo, okushukumisayo nokunothando kwemikhosi yomshado ye-LGBTQ+.

nguBrittny Drye

Ukufundwa kungafaka ubuntu nezothando emcimbini kodwa, kuyavunywa, kungase kube nzima ukuthola ababhali abasebenzisa izinkondlo ngendlela engathathi hlangothi ngobulili. Sithole ukufundwa okuyisikhombisa okufanele umcimbi ezinkondlweni zethu eziyintandokazi, ezincwadini zezingane ngisho nezinqumo zenkantolo, ezibungaza uthando, ezivumela umphakathi we-LGBTQ+ futhi zibonise imibhangqwana yonkana.

1. Ngomhla zingama-26 kuJuni 2015, iJaji Lenkantolo Ephakeme yase-US u-Anthony Kennedy wafunda umbono weningi owashintsha izimpilo zezigidi zabantu baseMelika, kwaletha ukulingana emshadweni ezweni lonke. Akukhona nje kuphela ukuthi lesi sinqumo sasiwumlando, kodwa sasiyinkondlo.

“Awukho umshado ojule njengomshado, ngoba uhlanganisa izimiso eziphakeme kakhulu zothando, ukwethembeka, ukuzinikela, ukuzidela, nomndeni. Ekwakheni isibopho somshado, abantu ababili baba into enkulu kunangaphambili. Njengoba abanye babaceli kulezi zimo bebonisa, umshado uhlanganisa uthando olungase lukhuthazelele ngisho nokufa. Kungaqondana nala madoda nabesifazane uma bethi abawuhloniphi umqondo womshado. Isicelo sabo siwukuthi balihloniphe, balihloniphe ngokujulile kangangokuthi bafune ukuzitholela ukugcwaliseka kwalo. Ithemba labo alikona ukulahlwa ukuphila isizungu, ngaphandle kwesinye sezikhungo ezindala kakhulu zempucuko. Bacela isithunzi esilinganayo emehlweni omthetho. UMthethosisekelo uyabanikeza lelo lungelo.”

-UJustice Anthony Kennedy, Hodges v. Obergefell

2. Njengoba kucatshangwa ukuthi iyisitabane noma ithanda ubulili obubili, imisebenzi ka-Walt Whitman yabhalwa ngokuthi ivusa inkanuko yesikhathi sayo. Kodwa isiqephu sokugcina esithi "Ingoma Yomgwaqo Ovulekile" sivusa i-adventure yothando ngendlela emangalisayo-futhi yini ejabulisa kakhulu kunangaphambili?

“Camerado, ngikunika isandla sami!

Ngikunika uthando lwami oluyigugu ngaphezu kwemali!

ngininika mina ngokwami ​​ngaphambi kokushumayela noma emthethweni;

Uzonginika wena? Uzohamba nami?

Sizanamathelana sonke sisaphila?”

-Walt Whitman, ".Ingoma Yomgwaqo Ovulekile”

3. Umsebenzi kaMary Oliver uhlanganisa uthando, imvelo nemikhosi, futhi wakhuthazeka kakhulu phakathi nokuhambahamba emzini wakhe e-Provincetown, Massachusetts, awabelana nomlingani wakhe, uMolly Cook, iminyaka engu-40 kwaze kwaba sekufeni kukaCook ngo-2005.

“Uma sishayela kumnyama,

emgwaqeni omude oya e-Provincetown,

lapho sikhathele,

lapho izakhiwo kanye nezihlahla zikaphayini zilahlekelwa ukubukeka kwazo okujwayelekile,

Ngibona ngeso lengqondo sisukuma emotweni egijima ngesivinini.

Ngicabanga sibona yonke into ikwenye indawo—

phezulu kwenye yezindunduma eziphaphathekile, noma ezijulile nezingenagama

amasimu olwandle.

Futhi esikubonayo yizwe elingeke lisazise,

kodwa esikwazisayo.

Futhi esikubonayo impilo yethu ihamba kanjalo

emaphethelweni amnyama ayo yonke into,

amalambu ashanela ubumnyama,

ukukholelwa ezintweni eziyinkulungwane ezintekenteke nezingenabufakazi.

Ngibheke usizi,

wehlisela injabulo,

ukwenza wonke amajika alungile

phansi kuze kube yizithiyo eziya olwandle,

amagagasi azungezayo,

imigwaqo emincane, izindlu,

okwedlule, ikusasa,

umnyango ongowabo

kimi nawe.”

-UMary Oliver, "Ngiyeza Ekhaya”

4. Ngaphambi kwesinqumo se-SCOTUS sango-2015, isinqumo seNkantolo Ephakeme YaseMassachusetts esenze umbuso waba ngowokuqala ukuqaphela ngokusemthethweni ukushada kwabantu bobulili obufanayo kwaba ukufundwa okudume kakhulu phakathi nesonto. umshado wezitabane imikhosi. Kusalokhu kuphezulu ohlwini lokufunda, ikakhulukazi kubashadikazi abathanda ukugqamisa umlando wokulingana emcimbini wabo.

“Umshado uyisikhungo esibalulekile senhlalo. Ukuzinikela okukhethekile kwabantu ababili komunye nomunye kukhulisa uthando nokusekelana; kuletha uzinzo emphakathini wethu. Kulabo abakhetha ukushada, nezingane zabo, umshado unikeza inala yezinzuzo ezingokomthetho, zezimali, nezenhlalo. Ukubuyisela ubeka izibopho ezinzima ezingokomthetho, zezimali, nezenhlalo….Ngaphandle kokungabaza, umshado womphakathi uthuthukisa 'inhlalakahle yomphakathi.' 'Kuyisikhungo somphakathi esibaluleke kakhulu...

Umshado unikeza nezinzuzo ezinkulu zangasese nezenhlalo kulabo abakhetha ukushada. Umshado wesintu uwukuzibophezela okujulile komunye umuntu kanye nokubungaza okusesidlangalaleni kwezimiso zokuzwana, ubungane, ukusondelana, ukwethembeka, nomndeni…. Ngenxa yokuthi ufeza izifiso zokulondeka, indawo ephephile, nokuxhumana okubonisa ubuntu bethu obufanayo, umshado womphakathi uyisikhungo esihlonishwayo, futhi isinqumo sokuthi uzoshada yini nokuthi ubani okumelwe ashade naye siphakathi kwezenzo ezibalulekile ekuphileni.”

-IJaji uMargaret Marshall, uGoodridge v. Umnyango Wezempilo Yomphakathi

5. Ithathwe kunoveli edumile ye-YA I-Wild Phaphama, lesi siqephu singahunyushwa njengokugubha ubunikazi bomuntu ngamunye, kanye nohambo lokuba nguwe, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi lokho kungase kube kuphi ku-spectrum yobunikazi bobulili, nokuthola lowo muntu okhethekile okuthandayo ngenxa yokuba nguwe.

“Abantu bafana namadolobha: Sonke sinemizila nezingadi nophahla oluyimfihlo nezindawo lapho amahlumela amila khona phakathi kwemifantu eseceleni komgwaqo, kodwa isikhathi esiningi esibonisana ngaso simane sibuka iposikhadi lesibhakabhaka noma isikwele esiphucuziwe. Uthando lukuvumela ukuthi uthole lezo zindawo ezicashile komunye umuntu, ngisho nalezo abebengazazi ukuthi zikhona, nalezo abebengacabangi ukuzibiza ngezinhle.”

—Hilary T. Smith, I-Wild Phaphama

6. Lokhu kufundwa encwadini yezingane I-Velveteen Rabbit idume kakhulu phakathi kwezithandani ze-LGBTQ, ngenxa yegama layo elingasho ubulili. Siyawuthanda umqondo wengane efunda lokhu, ngokuthinta okwengeziwe kokuthi “awww.”

“Iyini iREAL?” kubuza uNogwaja ngolunye usuku, belele eduze kwefender yasenkulisa, ngaphambi kokuba uNanna eze ezolungisa igumbi. "Ingabe kusho ukuba nezinto ezikhulumayo ngaphakathi kuwe nesibambo esiphuma ngaphandle?"

“Impela akusiyo indlela owenziwe ngayo,” kusho iHhashi Lesikhumba. “Yinto eyenzeka kuwena. Lapho ingane ikuthanda isikhathi eside, hhayi nje ukudlala nawe, kodwa ikuthanda NGEMPELA, khona-ke uba Ongokoqobo.”

"Ingabe kubuhlungu?" kubuza uNogwaja.

“Ngezinye izikhathi,” kusho iHhashi Lesikhumba, ngoba lalikhuluma iqiniso ngaso sonke isikhathi. “Lapho ungokoqobo awunankinga nokuhlukumezeka.”

“Ingabe kwenzeka kanyekanye, njengokuboshwa,” wabuza, “noma kancane kancane?”

“Akwenzeki kanyekanye,” kusho iHhashi Lesikhumba. “Uba. Kuthatha isikhathi eside. Yingakho kungenzeki kaningi kubantu abaphuka kalula, noma abanemiphetho ebukhali, noma okumele bagcinwe ngokucophelela. Ngokuvamile, ngesikhathi ungowangempela, iningi lezinwele zakho bese lithandwa, futhi amehlo akho ayaphuma futhi uyaxega emalungeni akho futhi ahlakazeke kakhulu. Kodwa lezi zinto azinandaba nhlobo, ngoba uma usungowangempela awukwazi ukuba mubi, ngaphandle kwabantu abangaqondi.”

— UMargery Williams, I-Velveteen Rabbit

7. Kukhona izingcaphuno nezinkondlo eziningana esingazidonsa kumbongi wodumo kanye nesishoshovu samalungelo ezitabane uMaya Angelou esingazizwa sisekhaya emcimbini, kodwa izingqikithi zobuqhawe nothando encwadini yakhe ethi “Touched by an Angel” zinhle, futhi. kusobala, ukukhetha kwabashadile be-LGBTQ. 

“Thina, isibindi esingasijwayele

abadingisiwe ngenxa yenjabulo

baphile besongelwe amagobolondo esizungu

kuze kube uthando luphuma ethempelini layo elingcwele eliphakeme

futhi iza emehlweni ethu

ukusikhulula empilweni.

Uthando luyafika

futhi esitimeleni sawo kufika izimangaliso

izinkumbulo zakudala zobumnandi

imilando yasendulo yobuhlungu.

Nokho uma sinesibindi,

uthando luyawaqeda amaketango okwesaba

emiphefumulweni yethu.

Silanyuliwe ngenxa yokwesaba kwethu

Ekukhanyeni kothando

singalokotha sibe nesibindi

Futhi ngokuzumayo siyabona

lolo thando lubiza konke esiyikho

futhi kuyoba njalo.

Nokho uthando kuphela

okusikhululayo.”

—Maya Angelou, “Wathintwa Ingelosi”

U-Brittny Drye ungumsunguli nomhleli omkhulu we Uthando Inc., ibhulogi yomshado enomqondo wokulingana ebungaza kokubili uthando oluqondile nolobulili obufanayo, ngokulinganayo.