Your LGBTQ+ Community

It's no secret that one of the trickiest parts of getting hitched is figuring out your wedding budget breakdown (that's why it's step one in our how to plan a wedding step by step guide). So to help you figure out your exact breakdown of wedding costs — and what wedding budget percentages to divide among catering, attire, flowers, music — we surveyed thousands of couples around the country in our report to share their wedding budgets with us — and we're sharing the average wedding budget breakdown here, so you can make the most informed decision for your day.

If you’re lucky enough to have two happy, engaged mothers supporting you and your fiancée as you plan a lesbian wedding, congrats! But, while it’s sometimes preferable to plan a wedding with the emotional and financial support of parents, it can be tricky when there are two mothers of the brides. Traditionally, the MOB is the second most important lady of the hour at a wedding, with her own set of rituals and time in the spotlight at an opposite-sex wedding. For queer couples with two brides, it can be an awkward tightrope exercise to make sure both MOBs feel celebrated and important during the lesbian wedding planning and on the big day.

Traditional wedding vows can be — how should we say it — heteronormative? The process of writing gay wedding vows can be challenging as you might need to sort through a variety of templates to find some examples that work for your LGBT wedding. On the flip side, as a queer or trans couple, you have a lot of freedom to craft wedding ceremony vows that represent your identity and your relationship without a ton of worry about tradition. In fact, a majority of same-sex couples choose to write their own wedding vows compared with about a third of opposite-sex couples.

When it comes to LGBTQ weddings, only the sky is the fashion limit. That’s both the good news and the bad news. With so many choices, it can be tough to decide no matter who you are, how you identify, or what you usually wear. Two dresses? Two tuxes? One suit and one tux? One dress and one suit? Or maybe just go super casual? Or get crazy matchy? You get the idea.