WEDDING DRESS ALTERATIONS & PRESERVATION FOR LGBTQ+ COUPLES
Advice From EVOL.LGBT
HOW TO FIND AND CHOOSE AN LGBTQ TAILOR?
Alright, you need a gay men wedding dress or lesbian wedding dress altered or preserved. Let’s start with a search for inspiration. Knowing what you want is half the battle.
Use sites like Pinterest, Google Image or your favorite LGBTQ community website. Search “gay wedding dress inspiration” or “lgbt wedding dress ideas” or “lesbian wedding dress ideas”. Ask your family, friends and gay couples you know for ideas or memorable dresses from weddings they attended.
Collect these findings, find the ones you love and add the images to your wedding mood board. Such a board will keep your wedding theme intact.
Now that you have a clear picture of what you want, it’s time to look for dress alteration and preservation vendors near you. Searching “lgbt tailors near me” or “queer tailor near me” will provide a number or options for wedding dress preservation and alteration services.
Keep the following in mind as you browse their websites and online profiles.
Portfolios: Have they done something similar to what you want to make or alter? Do they have examples that inspire you?
Customer reviews: What are their customers saying? Don’t pay too much attention to the star rating. Look for quality of reviews as opposed to the quantity. Detailed (longer) reviews are much more valuable than just a start rating.
Packages: Do they have service packages? Experienced LGBT friendly tailors will have service packages that allow you to save and them to be more efficient in their service.
Prices: Do they share prices on their website? Are these prices in your general ballpark? Even price ranges will suffice. No prices may lead to bad surprises down the road.
Once you find 2-3 LGBT friendly tailors, reach out to them to confirm your dates and check if there’s a personality fit. Reliable vendors answer fast and communicate well.
As you review each wedding tailor, consider stopping by their shop. Prepare a list of questions to ask each vendor. For example:
- Can the manager confirm service availability for your wedding?
- Can the tailor follow or add to my wedding dress vision?
- What would be the approximate cost of the wedding alteration service?
Frequently Asked Questions
Check answers to questions about choosing LGBTQ wedding dress alterations and preservation.
HOW MUCH DOES IT COST TO ALTER A WEDDING DRESS?
Typical wedding dress alterations cost between $150 and $600. If you’re customizing your gown or modernizing your mother’s dress, it may be up to $1,000. Some bridal boutiques may charge you a flat fee, while other seamstresses may charge you for individual alteration services.
HOW MUCH DOES IT COST TO PRESERVE A WEDDING DRESS?
In 2021, the current average cost to preserve a wedding gown is between $240 – $285. For best results, find a dry-cleaner who uses virgin solvent for cleaning wedding gowns. Some professional cleaners may use either dry-cleaning or wet-cleaning, depending on the gown fabric.
HOW LONG DO WEDDING DRESS ALTERATIONS TAKE?
Most dresses could technically be altered within 24 hours, but this is not ideal, you don’t want rushed work. The entire process is typically done in two to three fittings, the first of which lasts up to an hour. You should discuss all details with your atelier to be ready.
WHEN SHOULD I GET MY WEDDING DRESS ALTERED?
We recommend coming in for your fitting two months in advance, but not less than 1 month before to have your dress altered. Then, because everyone is trying to lose weight, we suggest having your final fitting no earlier than two weeks before the wedding.
Follow best practices
Follow these best practices to find a wedding dress alterations and preservation vendor that is inclusive and supportive of same-sex couples.
Research and Recommendations
Begin by conducting online research to identify wedding dress alteration and preservation vendors in your area. Utilize search engines, wedding directories, and review websites to find vendor listings and read feedback from previous clients. Seek recommendations from friends, family, or LGBTQ+ communities who have previously planned weddings.
Pay attention to the language used on the vendor’s website, social media platforms, and marketing materials. Look for inclusive terms and phrases that indicate they are welcoming and supportive of all couples, regardless of sexual orientation or gender identity.
Research if the vendor has been involved in LGBTQ+ events or organizations. This can be an indication that they are familiar with the specific needs and sensitivities of same-sex couples. Look for any mentions of LGBTQ+ inclusive initiatives or partnerships on their website or social media.
Examine the vendor’s portfolio or gallery to assess if they have experience working with diverse couples. Look for examples of wedding dress alterations and preservations they have performed on same-sex couples’ attire. This can help ensure they have expertise in understanding and addressing the unique fit and style requirements of LGBTQ+ clients.
Reviews and Testimonials
Read reviews and testimonials from previous clients, focusing on feedback from same-sex couples. These reviews can provide insights into the vendor’s professionalism, craftsmanship, and ability to create a welcoming and inclusive environment.
Reach out to the vendor directly to ask specific questions about their experience working with same-sex couples. Inquire about their approach to inclusivity and any accommodations they can provide to ensure a comfortable and personalized experience.
Meet in Person or Virtually
Schedule an in-person or virtual meeting with potential vendors. This allows you to have a direct conversation and assess their attitude, demeanor, and level of comfort in discussing your dress alterations and preservation needs. Choosing a vendor who is supportive and enthusiastic about your wedding is essential.
Request Consultations and Quotes
Arrange consultations with a few selected vendors to discuss your dress alteration and preservation requirements. Ask about their process, timeline, and pricing structure during the consultation. Request a written quote that outlines the services they will provide and any associated costs.
Before finalizing any agreements, carefully review the contract provided by the chosen vendor. Ensure that it includes inclusive language and specifies the services, pricing, timeline, and any additional accommodations or guarantees discussed. If needed, consult with a legal professional to ensure your rights and interests are protected.
Trust Your Instincts
Trust your instincts when selecting a vendor. If you feel uncomfortable or if the vendor seems dismissive or insensitive, it may be a sign to explore other options. Prioritize finding a vendor who values and respects your relationship and understands your wedding dress needs.
Questions to ask your vendor
- How long have you been working as a wedding dress alterations specialist?
- Have you worked with a diverse range of wedding dresses, including those designed for same-sex weddings?
- Can you provide examples or images of wedding dresses you have previously altered or tailored?
- Can you provide references from previous clients, including LGBTQ+ couples?
- What specific services do you offer for wedding dress alterations?
- How many fittings are typically required for alterations?
- Can you explain the typical timeline for the alteration process, from the initial consultation to the final fitting?
- Can you help with customizing or modifying the design of the wedding dress?
- How do you determine the cost of alterations?
- Do you offer package deals or have a pricing structure for specific alterations?
- Do you provide services for dress preservation after the wedding?
What are your recommendations for preserving the dress in the best condition?
- When should we schedule our first fitting?
- How far in advance should we contact you to ensure availability?
- Do you offer rush services if our wedding is approaching quickly?
- Can you guide how to transport the dress safely for our wedding day?