Iyayen Hindu Sun Jefi Littafin Ka'idar Kuma Sun Jefa Dansu Babban Auren Jima'i.

Ƙauna da karɓa su ne ainihin ma'auni na al'ada (kuma bikin aure mai ban mamaki!).

da Maggie Seaver

Mahaifin Rishi Agarwal Vijay da mahaifiyarsa Sushma sun ba da gudummawar almubazzarancin bikin auren Indiya a Oakville, Kanada. Bikin ya hada da duk wani al'ada na al'ada da kuma tarko na al'ada na Hindu bikin aure-sai dai guda ɗaya, kyawawan cikakkun bayanai: Rishi ya auri namiji, kuma liwadi ba wai kawai ya fusata ba a cikin al'adun Indiyawan gargajiya, amma a zahiri ya kasance ba bisa ƙa'ida ba kuma ana hukunta shi a Indiya.

Don haka, zaku iya tunanin fitowar Rishi a cikin 2004 ya kasance ɗan firgita ga Vijay da Sushma, waɗanda dukansu sun yi hijira daga Indiya a cikin shekarun 70s kuma koyaushe suna kula da gidan Hindu ga Rishi da ’yan uwansa.

“Lokaci ne mai wahala a gare ni. [Ni da iyalina] muna halartar bukukuwan aure kusan 15 zuwa 20 a cikin shekara guda," in ji Rishi Gungura.cikin game da yadda rayuwa ta kasance kafin buɗe wa danginsa. “Na yi farin ciki sosai ga abokaina na iyali. Amma kuma abin ya faru a cikin gida, jin cewa ba zan taɓa samun wannan ba—aure wanda nake so kuma in raba wannan.” Kamar yadda yake da ban tausayi, mun yi alkawari cewa akwai kyakkyawan ƙarshe, saboda ƙarancin tsammanin Rishi na ƙauna da farin ciki gabaɗaya ya ƙare.

Bayan da iyayensa suka fara mamaki da fargaba, Rishi ya damu su juya masa baya. Amma, maimakon haka, Vijay ya sake tabbatar masa, “Wannan ya kasance gidan ku koyaushe. Kar ma ka yi tunanin wani abu dabam.” Mafi muhimmanci, ba su taɓa ɗaukan Rishi bambanci fiye da sauran ’ya’yansu ba—suna son su gan shi ya yi aure kuma ya tsufa da wanda yake ƙauna. (Mafi kyawu, don Allah.)

Shiga, Daniel Langdon, wanda Rishi ya sadu da shi a cikin 2011. Bayan sun yi soyayya kuma Rishi ya ba da shawara, Agarwals sun kasance a kan manufa: "Mun rigaya mun yanke shawara ... ba za a sami bambanci tsakanin bikin auren babban ɗanmu ba ... "in ji Vijay. "Mun yi duk bukukuwan Hindu - mehndi, sangeet, bikin aure, dukan shebang." 

Ko da yake tsarin ba koyaushe ba ne mai sauƙi - limaman addinin Hindu bakwai sun ki amincewa da bukatar Vijay na auren ma'auratan kafin ya sami wanda zai yi - ranar bikin auren Rishi da Daniel a ƙarshe ya zo kuma ya cika da ƙauna, launuka masu kyau da kyawawan al'adu fiye da Rishi. iya fata.

“Akwai tatsuniyoyi da rashin fahimta da yawa a cikin al’ummarmu. Sakona mai sauqi ne. Idan kun ɗauki lokaci don fahimtar batun kuma ku tattara ilimin, ba kawai yara za su yi farin ciki ba, ku da kanku za ku yi farin ciki, "in ji Vijay na ɗansa (da kowa) ɗan luwadi da farin ciki. Bravo, Mr. da Mrs. Agarwal—wani kyakkyawan biki ne tare da ango biyu masu nishadi!

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