Abazali BamaHindu Bajikijela I-Rulebook Futhi Bajikijela Indodana Yabo Umshado Owubukhazikhazi Wobulili Obufanayo

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Ubaba ka-Rishi Agarwal u-Vijay nomama u-Sushma baxhase ngokukhululekile umshado wakhe wamaNdiya owawuwubukhazikhazi e-Oakville, eCanada. Lo mkhosi wawuhlanganisa yonke imicikilisho engokwesiko nemifanekiso ewubukhazikhazi yomHindu ovamile umshado—ngaphandle kowodwa, umniningwane omuhle kakhulu: uRishi washada nendoda, futhi ubungqingili abuphathwa kabi nje ngesiko lamaNdiya, kodwa empeleni buhlala bungekho emthethweni futhi bujeziswa eNdiya.

Ngakho-ke, ungacabanga ukuthi ukuphuma kukaRishi ngo-2004 kwabathusa u-Vijay noSushma, bobabili abasuka e-India ngeminyaka yawo-'70s futhi bebelokhu begcina umndeni wamaHindu oqinile kaRishi nezingane zakubo.

“Kwakuyisikhathi esinzima kimina. [Mina nomndeni wami] sasihambela imishado engaba ngu-15 kuya kwengama-20 ngonyaka,” kusho uRishi Skrola.ngaphakathi mayelana nokuthi impilo yayinjani ngaphambi kokuvulela umndeni wakhe isifuba. “Ngangijabule kakhulu ngabangane bomndeni wami. Kodwa futhi kwangithinta inhliziyo, umuzwa wokuthi angisoze ngaba nalokhu—ngishade nomuntu engimthandayo futhi ngibe naye.” Nakuba kudabukisa inhliziyo, sithembisa ukuthi kuzoba nesiphetho esijabulisayo, ngoba u-Rishi ayekulindelwe okuphansi othandweni nenjabulo kwadalulwa ngokuphelele.

Ngemuva kokumangala nokwesaba komzali wakhe okokuqala, uRishi wayekhathazekile ukuthi bazomfulathela. Kodwa, esikhundleni salokho, uVijay wamqinisekisa, “Leli bekuyikhaya lakho njalo. Ningaze nicabange ngenye indlela.” Okubaluleke nakakhulu, abazange bakucabange ukuphatha uRishi ngendlela ehlukile kunezinye izingane zabo—babefuna ukumbona eshada futhi eguga nomuntu amthandayo. (Ngicela udlulise izicubu.)

Ngena, uDaniel Langdon, uRishi ahlangana naye ngo-2011. Ngemva kokuthandana futhi uRishi wahlongoza, abakwa-Agarwal babesemkhankasweni: “Sase sinqume kakade…ngeke kube nomehluko phakathi komshado wendodana yethu endala…kanye nomshado wendodana yami encane, ” kusho uVijay. Senze yonke imikhosi yamaHindu—i-mehndi, i-sangeet, umshado, i-shebang yonke.” 

Nakuba inqubo yayingahambi kahle ngaso sonke isikhathi—abapristi abayisikhombisa bamaHindu basenqaba isicelo sikaVijay sokushada nombhangqwana ngaphambi kokuba athole othile owayezoshada—usuku lomshado kaRishi noDaniel lwagcina lufikile futhi lwagcwala uthando olwengeziwe, imibala egqamile namasiko amahle kunanini ngaphambili uRishi. ngabe nginethemba.

“Ziningi izinganekwane nokungaqondi kahle emphakathini wethu. Umlayezo wami ulula kakhulu. Uma uzinika isikhathi ukuqonda udaba futhi uqoqe ulwazi, akuzona izingane kuphela ezizojabula, nawe ngokwakho uzojabula,” kusho uVijay ngobutabane nenjabulo yendodana yakhe (kanye nanoma ubani). UBravo, uMnu noNkk. Agarwal—yeka umshado omuhle onabakhwenyana ababili abajabule!

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